that sounds interesting MrTomassi. could you eloborate more on that as a general theme? it's obvious and true how to take this advice in relation to the thread but isn't it our virtues who give us more inner happiness?Rollo Tomassi said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
From Rabbit to Nun, what happened?
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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I don't know too many people who regret virtues. Most people I know -- old and young -- say the best thing they've done in life is raise children. Even Mr. Tomassi here beams proudly when speaking of his daughter.
He might be getting at regretting not doing certain things that could be deemed on the wild side or anything.
Most people I know don't regret having class, raising a good family, and having a good job -- all virtues.
I think this site at times is way off base ... this is one of those cases, though I could be reading it wrong.
I haven't heard of too many alcoholilcs, druggies, pimps and prostitutes who have died happy ... I'm probably reading this wrong.
He might be getting at regretting not doing certain things that could be deemed on the wild side or anything.
Most people I know don't regret having class, raising a good family, and having a good job -- all virtues.
I think this site at times is way off base ... this is one of those cases, though I could be reading it wrong.
I haven't heard of too many alcoholilcs, druggies, pimps and prostitutes who have died happy ... I'm probably reading this wrong.
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Lets just say it's better to regret things we have done than things we haven't.
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Ah, that explains things a little better. That I agree with 100 percent.
me too.
nonetheless it would be an interesting subject to discuss. like would it be better to lie in situations in which lieing would benefit oneself or would the benefit of being honest with oneself and others be greater regarding to better selfrespect/selfesteem, attracting better/healthier people in one's life etc.
or another example: in "get rich" books(i'm talking about those which focus on the right mindset like thinkandgrowrich, greatestsalesmanintheworld,..) it is always advised to only do what benefits all people involved, to give to the poor, to produce value and so on. but my question is is this REALLY so important for a man? is a mafiosi with strong family ties, a hot woman/women, plenty of money and power really that unhappy?
nonetheless it would be an interesting subject to discuss. like would it be better to lie in situations in which lieing would benefit oneself or would the benefit of being honest with oneself and others be greater regarding to better selfrespect/selfesteem, attracting better/healthier people in one's life etc.
or another example: in "get rich" books(i'm talking about those which focus on the right mindset like thinkandgrowrich, greatestsalesmanintheworld,..) it is always advised to only do what benefits all people involved, to give to the poor, to produce value and so on. but my question is is this REALLY so important for a man? is a mafiosi with strong family ties, a hot woman/women, plenty of money and power really that unhappy?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Yo Trader,
Consider this:
Maybe the purpose of a man's life is defined not in the pursuit of happiness, but in the pursuit of personal, spiritual growth and integrity. I believe that a pursuit of these things are what generate true JOY, rather than simple HAPPINESS.
HAPPINESS can really be defined as an emotional high, like a shot of a mood altering drug. And like a drug, it is dependent upon an injection from something "outside" of yourself (see----babes, jobs, possessions,etc.).
But JOY can be defined as a deeper emotional high that is more spiritually based. It's more like a constant infilling of the soul with a sense of happiness PLUS contentment---inspite of a change in "outside" circumstances.
Joy comes from within, while happiness comes from without. Joy is internally generated, while happiness is externally manufactured.
Now, as this relates to babes---I'm finding that with every transient babe that I BONE I am NOT full of joy...only happiness. How do I know the difference? Because as soon as it's over, I will notice a boredom, or an emptiness, or a restlessness from inside.
Now, I have had JOY before with a woman,though. And how do I know this? Because as soon as the BONING was over with that particular kind of babe, I noticed a closeness, a lingering excitement, a sense of contentment and peace.
So therefore, I feel that your example of the "Unhappy Mobster" is a good one. The answer is NO. A mobster like the one you spoke of is probably mostly happy, rarely unhappy, but surely NEVER filled with the peace that only JOY can bring.
And speaking of peace...
May we all find it...one day.
Consider this:
Maybe the purpose of a man's life is defined not in the pursuit of happiness, but in the pursuit of personal, spiritual growth and integrity. I believe that a pursuit of these things are what generate true JOY, rather than simple HAPPINESS.
HAPPINESS can really be defined as an emotional high, like a shot of a mood altering drug. And like a drug, it is dependent upon an injection from something "outside" of yourself (see----babes, jobs, possessions,etc.).
But JOY can be defined as a deeper emotional high that is more spiritually based. It's more like a constant infilling of the soul with a sense of happiness PLUS contentment---inspite of a change in "outside" circumstances.
Joy comes from within, while happiness comes from without. Joy is internally generated, while happiness is externally manufactured.
Now, as this relates to babes---I'm finding that with every transient babe that I BONE I am NOT full of joy...only happiness. How do I know the difference? Because as soon as it's over, I will notice a boredom, or an emptiness, or a restlessness from inside.
Now, I have had JOY before with a woman,though. And how do I know this? Because as soon as the BONING was over with that particular kind of babe, I noticed a closeness, a lingering excitement, a sense of contentment and peace.
So therefore, I feel that your example of the "Unhappy Mobster" is a good one. The answer is NO. A mobster like the one you spoke of is probably mostly happy, rarely unhappy, but surely NEVER filled with the peace that only JOY can bring.
And speaking of peace...
May we all find it...one day.