From opener to convo... Serious trouble with that

[SandHawk]

I'm having serious issues with going from opening a set to talking to her/them. I usually open great, we relatively short and nice convo follows after opening, and then I usually tend to get lost.

I'm a very talkative person, and I usually chat up a lot of people, but the moment I'm in a club and I opened a nice set, I slam shut and it's over. Nothing to talk to the girl about.

Any tips on working on this? Because I've opened a few nice sets that seemed to hook, but that I blew because I lost my talk flow.

 

[noneother]

Yeah don't work with the left brain as that's too analytical. Use the right brain where imagination and creativity occurs.

 

[WhtRbt]

I find it helps to get into a sexual state before opening and try to maintain it, and the words will flow much better. At least get into a relaxed state like you're chilling in your living room so you feel totally comfortable. It's not the words or conversation that's the problem, it's the underlying mindstate that you are in. Change that, and the conversation should flow better.

 

[playerone]

The key is to not think about the conversation. Let it come naturally, speak your mind, but don't talk crap that will turn women off.

Be comfortable under your own skin, and something good is bound to happen. Even when you reach a point where you got nothing to say, don't panic. The correct mindset should be, it's an honour that you're approaching and talking to her. Turn awkward silence into comfortable silence. This is how it works, if you're comfortable, she's comfortable too.

When you're feeling cool, good things just happen, depending on the level of your game.

Hope that helped.