"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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From now on, no advice for me

DJinTraining06

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I am not takin anyboyd's advice on anything anymore. Unless i need to ask an expert on a particular subject about somethin like say - asking a physicist about the laws of gravity, or askin a history professor about some historical fact.
I am not askin people for advice on women, or life in general anymore. Cuz i am noticing my gut is usually right. We are all capable of finding the answers inside us. We want people to tell us wat we wanna here and that gets us nowhere. Does anybody else feel like they were 10 times smarter when they were 8 yrs old? I feel like my instincts were right back then. Now theyre f'd up cuz of other people gettin in my head.

Last night as I mentioned in a previous post, I went out with this really cute girl. She reminds me of Catherine Zeta Jones (facially) - not bad eh? No rack at all - absoultely an A-cup. But she's a nice height 5'6'', great a$$, and that face makes up for it. We had a good time having 2 drinks and then playing air hockey.

Now from what i read from her personality last night, my gut told me she's the type of girl who likes to be contacted right away. So i listened to my gut and texted her right after the date. I said "hey u know i let u win in air hockey right" - she responded favorably to that.

Now this morning, i texted her again (obsessive afc move most would say?) I said - "I had a good time tho, aside from my defeats"

Around lunchtime, she texts me, "hey call me on ur break if u can :) "
I call and at the end she says - alright ill prob talk to u online or call ya later. And she kept sayin she wanted a rematch in air hockey.

So that crap bout not callin the next day is not true. Only sometimes. U gotta read the girl urself. If u come on here and ask people wat to do its worthles cuz other guys didnt experience her firsthand like u did, so wouldn't yourself be the best person to trust?

No matter how well u tell someone a story, ur always gonna leave some details out, and the other persons advice is therefore going to be worthless. Unless they expereinced a situtaion with u, what good is there advice?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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skip2mylou781

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MR. DJ-In-Training

read my thread about "do we really need sosuave?"

there, i clearly state that we BEST learn from lotsa lotsa experiences, and that on sosuave, there is WAY too much analyzation going on.

let me give u an example about me,

I had met this hb9.5 tall beautiful blonde with a PERFECT face off of myspace like a month and a half ago..........we had a good time together, and we proceeded to see each other for 3 weeks after that........we texted each other probly 5-10 times a day EVERY DAY, and every text was along the lines of "oh baby i cant wait to see u and kiss ur beautiful lips again", and her responses were always alogn the lings of "awww ur so sweet skip, i cant wait to be in ur arms again mwaah".....this went on and on, and in those 3 weeks, i saw her 7 times, we always cuddled/kissed, and 1 nite we got a hotel room, we ended up fvcking 3 times.......she told me she couldnt believe how fast she got comfortable with me.

i didnt care bout texting, that sosauve advice is ridiculous. u ****ing text and call and say w./e u want and do w/e u want however u want with whoever u want! the KEY is to sound sweet, and not needy, that is all.

so yes djtraining, YOU ARE CORRECT. Using sosuave to overanalyze everything will completely kill u on the inside and turn u into the worlds biggest AFC.
 

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Use sosuave for what it's worth. if you dont want to overanalyze, then dont. if you have a question, however, then feel free to ask.
 

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DJinTraining06 said:
I am not takin anyboyd's advice on anything anymore. Unless i need to ask an expert on a particular subject about somethin like say - asking a physicist about the laws of gravity, or askin a history professor about some historical fact.
I am not askin people for advice on women, or life in general anymore. Cuz i am noticing my gut is usually right. We are all capable of finding the answers inside us.
Cool u have a good gut but trust me there will be a time when you need some prodding or holding back

We want people to tell us wat we wanna here and that gets us nowhere. Does anybody else feel like they were 10 times smarter when they were 8 yrs old? I feel like my instincts were right back then. Now theyre f'd up cuz of other people gettin in my head.
I hear ya, but that's part of it. Now other people can help unscrew your head.

Last night as I mentioned in a previous post, I went out with this really cute girl. She reminds me of Catherine Zeta Jones (facially) - not bad eh? No rack at all - absoultely an A-cup. But she's a nice height 5'6'', great a$$, and that face makes up for it. We had a good time having 2 drinks and then playing air hockey.
Cool grats on your good date.

Now from what i read from her personality last night, my gut told me she's the type of girl who likes to be contacted right away. So i listened to my gut and texted her right after the date. I said "hey u know i let u win in air hockey right" - she responded favorably to that.

Now this morning, i texted her again (obsessive afc move most would say?) I said - "I had a good time tho, aside from my defeats"

Around lunchtime, she texts me, "hey call me on ur break if u can :) "
I call and at the end she says - alright ill prob talk to u online or call ya later. And she kept sayin she wanted a rematch in air hockey.
Sounds like the beginning of a wonderful friendship ;) Just be careful bro, girls love to text, talk and hangout but it takes some work on your part to actually get them in bed.

So that crap bout not callin the next day is not true. Only sometimes. U gotta read the girl urself. If u come on here and ask people wat to do its worthles cuz other guys didnt experience her firsthand like u did, so wouldn't yourself be the best person to trust?
You are the person with the most information on the subject of this girl so no matter how long your post you still will be in the best situation to call the shots.

No matter how well u tell someone a story, ur always gonna leave some details out, and the other persons advice is therefore going to be worthless. Unless they expereinced a situtaion with u, what good is there advice?
We're all been in common situations, most notably: life. We've all dealt with girls, dating, texting, calling, hanging out, fvcking, and the rest. So trust us ;)
 

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the **** is up with that troll up there?? get off the public library computer and go back to your trailer u ****in honkey...and before u come up with some ignorant retort NO I am not black.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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