"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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From now on I will take the hint and quit.

zzirf25

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This isn't something that I have done but what a chick is doing. I talked to this chick one time online one night before I went to bed. And I met her a few days later. She wasn't bad looking, but just wasn't my type and she also has a kid at age 18 which is a huge turnoff, so I was just gonna next her. Well, it is not that simple, she keeps on messaging me and I just ignore her messages and I thought that she would get the hint and stop. Well that was not even close to being the case at all. She still constantly messages me and doesn't stop and it has been close to three weeks since I messaged back.

When I got off work tonight, I got online and I turned my ICQ on and she was online. She saw that I had just logged on and messaged me. Normally I ignore her but that is when my ICQ has been on for a while and I have my away icon on and she doesn't know if I am there or not. Tonight she knew that I was online so it would be very obvious I was ignoring her. The only reason that I replyed back was because my step-dad works with her and I didn't wanna bring my drama of me ignoring her to him. So anyway here is basically how the conversation goes.

Her: Hello?

Me: Hey

Her: Who is this?

Me: ZZIRF25

Her: Are you sure.

Me: Yep

Her: Well that sucks because I gotta get off the computer because my sis needs it, I really wanted to talk to you.

Me: Ok

Her: So what do you think?

Me: About what?

Her: Me....

Me: I don't really know you.

Her: Looks wise.

Me: About a 6 on a 10 scale.

Her: Thanks a lot.

Her: I'll talk to you later.

Me: Ok

And that was about it. I think she was offended by me saying she was a mere 6, so I hope that she will leave me alone now. But I don't know if she will or not because by me saying this could only make her want to prove herself to me. I want to go totally AFC if I talk to her again, but I don't know if it will work since she is more AFC that I have ever been in my life. She is constantly asking my step-dad about me and just doesn't seem to get the point when I ignore her. I know I shoulda ignored her tonight but, I didn't for the reasons above. I never physically see her so I don't have to worry about that, I just want her to quit sending me these messages trying to make me feel guilty about ignoring her. Honestly I am a little freaked out because I think that even if I straight up told her I didn't like her that she still wouldn't leave me alone. What would you fellow DJ's do?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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penkitten

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cant you just solve it by putting her on ignore?
i mean its easier than saying " i know i talked to you but i dont find you interesting or attractive and im not joking so leave me alone"
 

Wyldfire

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Just tell her that you didn't feel any chemistry with her and wish her luck in finding the right guy.

That's what I do when a guy I'm not interested in pursues me.
 

GropeDope

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I only know one person who has ever f*cked someone they met online. And she was a sorority hooker so I barely even count that.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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KinkyMan

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since you are talking about it, i think you are interested in at least keeping her as an option

if you really aren't you should help you and her by avoiding her
 

griffon65

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Just tell her "ur not my type" or "I only wanna be friends." Dont be like the female population and just ignore her and make her wonder, why stoop to their level?
 

Jariel

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Yeah, good point and I know what you mean! You have learned how annoying it is when people don't take the hint! Therefore, you know never to act the same way with women.

It amuses me how guys start whining about how mean and b1tchy a girl has been to them, but they forget to mention how they've been hounding her non-stop for weeks.

If you can't take the polite hints (flakiness, not returning calls etc) then don't be surprised if it's spelt out for you in not-so-polite terms.
 

speedo_meme

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haha yeah this dude is mad because she was chasing him and she quit. get your attention elsewhere and leave this girl alone.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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