"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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From Natural to AFC, to Omega, to wannabe DJ, to.....crushed

Bael

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Hey SoSuave,

My name is not important, my age is 33 and I am from Germany,

This may be a long post so prepare.....and there are many details, which I do not tell you because they are too long.

Lets have it short: when I was young, i got many girls, then i believed in love, did not get it and became a heremit: just reading, learning, training etc. I had no girl or friends over 10 years.

After this, I found this side and learned from it. I adapted many "DJ stuff" to my live because I became lonesome. After 10 years, I made out, got laid and had dates with many girls in clubs, from work, sports etc. again.

Then I met another woman, a major RED FLAG, but i liked here. She was the first woman which did not asked me which car i have etc.
So were interacting several months and all the time she was saying: she likes me, she wants to be with me but all the time I am hurting here with my speech, often she cried. One day it escalated ( no, not the good way :) ) I started insulting here, threaten here and she got afraid.....so she said its over.
Then i wrote here a letter and a SMS ( yes, stuff young people do not know :) ) and we talked again. She said, that she needs time to think about which i did to here and i found out that she has a new guy....to my shame i flipped out and started to insult and threaten here again.....since then its all over; I know.

I know, I am a major RED flag ( never had a LTR, was 2 times in a withdrawal threatment since last December, nice, humble and educated etc) but at the other hand I am OK ( have an average of 1.2 in college and university, good looking etc.) but the whole stuff is crushing me....

I am desperate; it never comes to me; it comes to guys with neck tattoo, without degree, ugly and no use for the world. Then I have to ***** slap them ( not the girl....:) ) and everyone ( e.g. a girl) defense them.

Meanwhile, I think I am stupid or insane, I do not really know. I could write a lot more but i do not want to borrow you :) Just ask me if u are interested :)

Well.....SoSuave....U changed my live....were are u now?

Greetings

Bael
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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