From Girlfriend To F@ck Buddy??

[orbion2013]

hello guys

want your opinions on a certain matter...

been in a on and off relationship with a woman for about 2 years... the first year was great...

i never told her i loved her, did not show that much affection, spent little time with her... the sex was great and plenty full

now things got crappy 1 year later, when i fell in love with her... started telling her that i love her, did a few afc things here and there, became too available and too involved etc

she bacame quite rude and disrespectful, and the sex life started to suffer too...

anyhow i am pretty certain this girl is to some degree bdp, all the hallmarks are there... so i know setteling down with her is impossible

now for the last year or so, i have been living in cloud cuckoo land, telling myself, i would marry this girl, we would live together etc etc horse sh@t

this woman is not capable of love, the whole relationship was about control on her part & i was on the losing end, because i developed feelings...

anyhow i have had some time to think things through... as i broke up with her recently after a bust up


my question is, is it possible to re - train a girl, after you have been in a love relationship with her??

is it possibble to do a u-turn... get back together with her...

stop telling her you love her, only on the odd occasion...

make myself un attainable again, like when we first met

spend less time with her

take the control back, that she had over me when it came to sex

see that was the power she had over me... her pusssy

is it possible to re-train a female??????

 

[orbion2013]

what i am essentialy saying... is it possible to gain control over her??

 

[El Suave]

Just in case you are not trolling....
It is not possible to change her, train her, control her, any of that crap. All of us on this forum have tried this at one point or another, that's why we are here. Let this one fly away. I know she hurt your pride and even your heart a little, but you are 100% wasting your time with her.

Please stop with the "I want to control her" crap. A real man doesn't think of controlling women. You lead them. When you are in complete control of your life, feelings, and actions, they will follow. Sounds simple but it's not. I can promise that if you try you'll get there.

Now if you really think you need to get revenge on her or who knows what to make you feel better about yourself, bang a friend of hers.

 

[VladPatton]

You cannot change her basic neurological makeup. Put it this way; there are scientists with phd's that dedicate their lives to figure out how to cure such brains. Us, in all our mighty SoSuave community, have only our feet. So get some bad ass running shoes and run as fast as you can from her or get sucked further into her vortex of insanity!

 

[Cremasta]

You can't retrain her.

You can only retrain yourself.

Train yourself to know what you want and will just say so, and that you won't take any crap from her or any other girl.
She can either follow in your wake, or go and find some other chump and make his life impossible.

Did this with an ex once (she was the reason why I came to this site). After reinventing myself, I went to see her about a year later, and just for the fun of it tried to get her naked... took me 20 minutes.

It's about you, not her.

Good luck.