Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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From friend to **** buddy ~ A work in progress...

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How do girls you are familiar with typically respond when you semi-ignore whilst you're with them?

This situation is with a girl I've known for the past 4 years. She's HB material, and is one of the sadly mistaken ones who thinks she can get any guy she wants.

Anyway we've been friends for a while, and if I'm being completely honest we both get social proof from each other. We hang out at nightclubs together, and I may well end up teaching her to wing cos she can be a laugh like that.

Although she's HB material, for the past few years I've not given her much thought as more than a friend. I've avoided getting close like that for a number of reasons - mainly because I wanted to see if I had the self discipline to.

In recent weeks however, I've given in to the temptation and started flirting with her. This didn't go down too well, but i've not been obvious about anything yet. The reason I've hesitated to go all out with my normal approach is because I've known her for some time.

If I alter my behaviour around her to treat her like all the other girls will this matter? What will happen if I do this?

I want to fu.ck her, but I think I need to reposition myself in her eyes. I know it is possible. How?

If she's round at my place for instance and I ask her to stay over, she has done in the past - in the same bed... However, I once drunkenly made a pass at her in a club, and got shot down. I dont think she forgot about it. I dont have one-itis, as I dont think of her in that way, but I dont want to walk away from the challenge of f-closing her!

Anyone with similar past experience?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Also, if anyone has past experience please share advice.
I am not sure whether to keep this girl as a friend, or turn her into a conquest. She's great social proof cos she's quite HOT, but is not that exciting to be around as friends.

I know this sounds AFC, but I want to test myself and stick to my choice. Game her? Or strictly platonic?

Come on people!
 

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nice post on LJBF. Useful info there.

I think the fundamental unanswered qn is: is it a good idea to accept them as a friend for good,

or better to show em the door if they don wanna ****,

or thirdly to work on yourself, and eventually ur way into their thongs (intentionally or not, as you say you did)....
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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bump, i have a similiar prob. and wondering what has worked well for people. Ganji games is an option that i have read on, but depending on the situation is either not worth it or not an option
 

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please, for the love of god read my post and learn from my past mistakes
 
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