"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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from depressed AFC to real man in 3 years

Naapimp

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Just got back from a party and the bars. I had a great time and engaged in 10-30 minute conversations with five different women. Got the numbers from the ones I was interested in and left the others wanting more from me. One of them, a hb8.5, suggested sex.

What I would say is work on your mental health first. You should first know where you're going in life before you know who's going with you. Your attitude and beliefs GREATLY effect what will happen to you in life. Work on your inner game first and the rest will take of itself.

Right now my mental health is higher than it has ever been before. I am more confident than I have ever been before. I truly believe and have the confidence to do anything.

What I strive for in life is simple:
Happiness
Success
and Freedom

and not for a short while but longterm in a very durable and fulfilling sense.


I would recommend you try finding some self help MP3s if you think you are depressed and find someone you can talk to, preferable a psychiatrist. After that, if your older than 21 it is time you become a real man, not some boy-man who never devolved and grew up. A great DVD to learn how to do this is 'David DeAngelo - On Being A Man' you can torrent it. Find a group of more mature men than you to be around and learn from. Many if not most father's these days in America do not do good enough job of being a role model for a real man. I know now how little of a man my father was.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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backbreaker

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clap clap clap

you are getting it. I've been preaching it for years now. my game isn't THAT much better than most here.. It's what I think of myself, and the mental state I have. I know I'm the ****. no think to it. I honestly think me fvcking a woman is the best thing that can happen to HER. Why wouldn't it be? I'm me!
 

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Naapimp said:
Just got back from a party and the bars. I had a great time and engaged in 10-30 minute conversations with five different women. Got the numbers from the ones I was interested in and left the others wanting more from me. One of them, a hb8.5, suggested sex.

What I would say is work on your mental health first. You should first know where you're going in life before you know who's going with you. Your attitude and beliefs GREATLY effect what will happen to you in life. Work on your inner game first and the rest will take of itself.

Right now my mental health is higher than it has ever been before. I am more confident than I have ever been before. I truly believe and have the confidence to do anything.

What I strive for in life is simple:
Happiness
Success
and Freedom

and not for a short while but longterm in a very durable and fulfilling sense.


I would recommend you try finding some self help MP3s if you think you are depressed and find someone you can talk to, preferable a psychiatrist. After that, if your older than 21 it is time you become a real man, not some boy-man who never devolved and grew up. A great DVD to learn how to do this is 'David DeAngelo - On Being A Man' you can torrent it. Find a group of more mature men than you to be around and learn from. Many if not most father's these days in America do not do good enough job of being a role model for a real man. I know now how little of a man my father was.
Great post and great advice.
My success was when I found what I really wanted to do with my life, I had found my passion. This helped me set goals to reach it and once I did I was a changed man. I found myself and that was enough to change my whole mentality regarding women and life in general. I posted some of the things that helped me change in the Don Juan Tips forum. People look for methods and techniques but the bottom line is that they don't help if you don't find yourself first.
 

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I especially like the part about finding a more mature group of dudes to be around. I really only have one friend that I consider to be in the same arena as me maturity wise. I feel like most my friends are stuck on problems that should be long gone for people in their late 20s/early 30s. I'm seeking out a more mature set of people to hang with, and I'm also on the lookout for wingmen, but it gets hard to find wings to go out with once you are 30.
 

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Bravo, mate! Keep on doing :up:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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aussiegoat55

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[[ Work on your inner game first and the rest will take of itself.]]

So true. You don't need the tricks, science, theories, and schemes. That is all unnatural shyt. You think the majority of real man out there use tricks? Hah, no way, it's all about confidence. Confidence will allow you to make a move, pass the shyt tests, and increase her attraction.

I worked on confidence and inner game first and as a result I am a lot more outgoing, social, and happier. Improve your life, strengthen your moral character, and leave no part of your life neglected. Do that first and the chicks will notice. Because when you have a solild, core confidence, like you said, everything comes easier. Just evolve yourself into becoming a real man of strength, it is a daily endeavor and you have to work on it, breach your comfort zone, but the reward of all your hard work is a wonderful life. Good post.

Here's some more "being a man" info:

My favourite:

www.vix.com/menmag/louman.htm


http://www.becomeaplayer.com/articles/realman.htm

http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_100/113_dating_advice.html

http://www.holysmoke.org/fem/fem0290.htm

Also be sure to read Pook's "Be a Man" post.
 
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