"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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From BF to GF

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I have been friends with this girl for years and we have both been attracted to each other. We dated once for a couple of months and broke u during the summer. Now, both her and I, are both single. I have tried to see if a spark is still there. She has sent mixed signals such as telling me she really would like me to come to an FCA meeting and telling me that it would mean the world to her if I could come to one of her track meets. I don't know what it all means. I want to find out how she feels without damaging what we already have.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dragonemperor

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ok the way i see it u cant hurt anything by fufilling her request....and if you want to get close to her tell her so...if ur friends she'll hear u out. She could just be trying to get u more into her life...first with recreational stuff then...who knows!
 

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So I went to the event with her and the whole time she was showing me to all her friends and instead of calling me over grabbing by my hand or ass to get me to come over.
 

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Since you two dated previously, I would take this one a bit slower.

Just chill and observe her. If she keeps flirting, flirt back. If she looks interested, show her you're interested. Spend more time with her, in and out of school. Pretty soon she'll get the idea. When she steps it up, you do the same. Smile, be friendly, and make her feel loved.

It's good that it seems the previous relationship ended on a good note. Right now she WANTS you to spend more time with her, and she's flirting, she WANTS you to flirt back.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Let me know how the sex change operation goes, and when you go "From BF to GF"

It sounds like you have the right idea.

GOOD LUCK



animal crackers
 

FreshAir1z

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maybe she just wants to spend time with you, getting back with ex's is not a good idea at all. In my opinion if she likes you, let her do the chasing
 

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there's nothing bad at all about spending time (esp if it's cuddling or something like that (i'm a sucker for that -_-))
 
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