Kailex
Master Don Juan
After two definite situations that I've gone through in recent months, I compiled a few tips not only from the DJ site, but as learned by through experience. In an era of technological advances; Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, etc. have made it increasingly easy for people to reach out to each other in a matter of minutes. But is this all good, specially for DJ's-in-progress?
We now live in a world where aspiring DJ's are not only tested on actual dates, but are being forced to jump through hoops for women via texts/posts/wall remarks. Texting is great... when it's used for the correct reasons: To remind a relative that they need to pay you back $40, to tell your best friend that he's a metrosexual, or for your wife to remind you that you need to bring home milk and eggs tonight.
But is it so great for dating purposes?
The simple answer is: NO.
Unfortunately for us, texting is SO easy for women, and the age of actually calling someone to see how they were has officially died. Why call someone and have to pay attention to just them, when you can text someone or MANY someones at the same time, with relative ease?
There's always going to be this one girl that you like, who seems to text you from 8:30 to 4:30, CONSTANTLY, and it could be just about anything: from flirtation to talking about the latest happenings. And you sit there, and text her, and think to yourself, "Wow, she really likes me."
WRONG. Guess what, she probably works from 8 to 5 and you are her entertainment for the day. Ever wondered why all of a sudden after 6:30, she no longer is texting you, or if you text her, she won't respond? If you're lucky, you might get a text at 8:30 AM saying, "Sorry, I fell asleep early last night. Was tired." And then... she texts you for the next 6 hours and everything is good, right?
WRONG.
You're falling back into the vicious cycle of texting.
You probably work from 8 to 5, and guess what, you wasted all day as well texting her and have become incredibly unproductive. Not only that, but your co-workers keep seeing you bob your head up and down because you keep looking at your phone.
Which brings me to another point, if you absolutely MUST reply to her, please, don't receive a message from her at 8:30:45 and respond to her by 8:31:26.
That is NO way to demonstrate that you are available at all times, which is what we DON'T want to appear at ALL. We want to appear that we are busy, that we have other stuff to do. We're not waiting on her all day to send a text! No we're NOT! If there is something SO important that must be talked about, she will call you, and you will talk. If you feel the need to text at anytime or even try to drag out conversations through text, ask yourself, "Would we really be talking about this face-to-face?" Ask yourself again, "Why is she texting me? What does she want?"
Anything that is said through text, can be said at later times. Is it really that important to tell her about what you did last night, that it couldn't wait a day or two until you both go out? Why try to erase all of the intrigue and open up the curtain completely to what your day is like? Sure, you're texting her and thinking that you are spending the day together via the phone, but what she is probably thinking is that you don't take your job/school/whatever else, serious enough that you can actually sit there all day with her.
And to you gentlemen that seem to have FB/MS/Twit on your phones, your notebooks, your work computer, your microwave, your car, and even your dog. There's a time and a place, and the messages on people's walls... avoid those too. Don't sit there and have conversations throughout any of those. Facebook is for people who want to find you, that haven't seen you in 15 years, thought they were your friend, and have an awkward conversation for 5 minutes... and that's it.
If you are really into a girl through any social networking website, try to take OFF the site and onto the phone to set up a date as quickly as you possibly can. If you drag it on, you are just wasting your time. It's really amusing that you can log onto any of these websites at any time and get a message and respond right away, but years ago, none of this existed, forcing real social interaction and giving aspiring DJ's somewhat of an upper hand.
Texting through any means has just lead to increased flakiness, increased teasing, and hard-to-read active/passive testing by females. Basically, if you are texting TOO much, you are losing already. Keep it simple, keep it on the phone for 10 -15 minutes of VERBAL conversation. You want to get her in front of you, not typing on a QWERTY keyboard all day while she's probably texting two other guys at the same time.
Use the opportunities of texting to your advantage. If she's truly interested, she'll bring it off the texts and into a date in no time. It'll save you time as well. Not only will you still be productive and "busy" as all should DJ's be, but you will know much quicker whether it is leading somewhere.
Just avoid being texted and all of a sudden being nexted by someone.
We now live in a world where aspiring DJ's are not only tested on actual dates, but are being forced to jump through hoops for women via texts/posts/wall remarks. Texting is great... when it's used for the correct reasons: To remind a relative that they need to pay you back $40, to tell your best friend that he's a metrosexual, or for your wife to remind you that you need to bring home milk and eggs tonight.
But is it so great for dating purposes?
The simple answer is: NO.
Unfortunately for us, texting is SO easy for women, and the age of actually calling someone to see how they were has officially died. Why call someone and have to pay attention to just them, when you can text someone or MANY someones at the same time, with relative ease?
There's always going to be this one girl that you like, who seems to text you from 8:30 to 4:30, CONSTANTLY, and it could be just about anything: from flirtation to talking about the latest happenings. And you sit there, and text her, and think to yourself, "Wow, she really likes me."
WRONG. Guess what, she probably works from 8 to 5 and you are her entertainment for the day. Ever wondered why all of a sudden after 6:30, she no longer is texting you, or if you text her, she won't respond? If you're lucky, you might get a text at 8:30 AM saying, "Sorry, I fell asleep early last night. Was tired." And then... she texts you for the next 6 hours and everything is good, right?
WRONG.
You're falling back into the vicious cycle of texting.
You probably work from 8 to 5, and guess what, you wasted all day as well texting her and have become incredibly unproductive. Not only that, but your co-workers keep seeing you bob your head up and down because you keep looking at your phone.
Which brings me to another point, if you absolutely MUST reply to her, please, don't receive a message from her at 8:30:45 and respond to her by 8:31:26.
That is NO way to demonstrate that you are available at all times, which is what we DON'T want to appear at ALL. We want to appear that we are busy, that we have other stuff to do. We're not waiting on her all day to send a text! No we're NOT! If there is something SO important that must be talked about, she will call you, and you will talk. If you feel the need to text at anytime or even try to drag out conversations through text, ask yourself, "Would we really be talking about this face-to-face?" Ask yourself again, "Why is she texting me? What does she want?"
Anything that is said through text, can be said at later times. Is it really that important to tell her about what you did last night, that it couldn't wait a day or two until you both go out? Why try to erase all of the intrigue and open up the curtain completely to what your day is like? Sure, you're texting her and thinking that you are spending the day together via the phone, but what she is probably thinking is that you don't take your job/school/whatever else, serious enough that you can actually sit there all day with her.
And to you gentlemen that seem to have FB/MS/Twit on your phones, your notebooks, your work computer, your microwave, your car, and even your dog. There's a time and a place, and the messages on people's walls... avoid those too. Don't sit there and have conversations throughout any of those. Facebook is for people who want to find you, that haven't seen you in 15 years, thought they were your friend, and have an awkward conversation for 5 minutes... and that's it.
If you are really into a girl through any social networking website, try to take OFF the site and onto the phone to set up a date as quickly as you possibly can. If you drag it on, you are just wasting your time. It's really amusing that you can log onto any of these websites at any time and get a message and respond right away, but years ago, none of this existed, forcing real social interaction and giving aspiring DJ's somewhat of an upper hand.
Texting through any means has just lead to increased flakiness, increased teasing, and hard-to-read active/passive testing by females. Basically, if you are texting TOO much, you are losing already. Keep it simple, keep it on the phone for 10 -15 minutes of VERBAL conversation. You want to get her in front of you, not typing on a QWERTY keyboard all day while she's probably texting two other guys at the same time.
Use the opportunities of texting to your advantage. If she's truly interested, she'll bring it off the texts and into a date in no time. It'll save you time as well. Not only will you still be productive and "busy" as all should DJ's be, but you will know much quicker whether it is leading somewhere.
Just avoid being texted and all of a sudden being nexted by someone.