From A-Hole to DJ

[ChapStick]

I have been with my girlfriend for over a year and a half. I was the ultimate ******* to her. I treated her like total ****. She is completely in-love with me, but yesterday she called me out and said enough is enough. She has pulled this card before and she has always come back to me even after all that I've done. I have promised to changed many times. While I have changed for a short period of time, I went back to my old abusive ways. I am actually serious about a change now. I want to make myself vulnerable to love, but I need your guys' advice.

I want to change. I want to be a better man. I want to keep my girlfriend interested, but I don't want to treat her like **** anymore. She deserves better. Can anyone help me out with an example on how a man of value would behave in a relationship? Is it possible to be good to the person you're in a relationship with and have them not lose interest in you?

 

[Tyson420]

I think the it's the ******* factor that keeps her coming back lmao.

 

[ChapStick]

I think the it's the ******* factor that keeps her coming back lmao.

Yeah, but don't people have a breaking point? And I don't want to live like this anymore. I've treated this girl like **** for a long time. I want to be a real man.

 

[arutha]

Eh, you probably broke her. If you really still respect her enough to want to try to make it work better, it can be done, but you're probably better off finding someone else. The hardest thing is trying not to go too far the other way and being too nice because that WILL destroy the relationship, or whatever future one you get.

Main thing, be confident. Do not be afraid to speak your mind to her. Take charge. Don't stop teasing her, but do it playfully. Don't start doing everything she tells you, make her work for it. She is used to your attitude now, after 2 years she is going to keep coming back, girls are pathetic like that, and she will find it surprising when you start changing. Just remember, if you do something for her it is because YOU want to not because she is asking.

 

[ChapStick]

Main thing, be confident. Do not be afraid to speak your mind to her. Take charge. Don't stop teasing her, but do it playfully. Don't start doing everything she tells you, make her work for it. She is used to your attitude now, after 2 years she is going to keep coming back, girls are pathetic like that, and she will find it surprising when you start changing. Just remember, if you do something for her it is because YOU want to not because she is asking.

That's some golden advice there man. Thanks!

 

[Scars]

If you change your ways then she is going to eventually lose interest.

It's the sad depressing truth.

I want to say keep doing what you're doing, but abuse is never good, and can get you in quite a lot of trouble. Just try and keep it from becoming physical. Maybe tone it down, just a tad.

Some b!tches need to be tamed.

You know she will always come back. It doesn't matter if she dates another guy. He'll most likely just be a beta that treats her like a princess, which is what she thinks she truly wants but then she realizes that it's not making her pvssy wet and she comes running back to you once again.

So you know she will come back.

But caving into beta-ism you take the risk of losing her completely. Or at least until you start becoming an assh0le again.

Girls like this are usually psychologically and emotionally damaged, there's no way around it. They NEED a guy who will treat them like a pile of sh!t.

 

[Slashco]

I hate to say this, but my experience seems to support what the others are saying. I've got a friend, he basically treats women like crap, does whatever he wants, never listens to them etc., and he's always got a girlfriend who insists on staying with him. Me on the other hand, I tried to treat them nice, be a gentleman and so on, and usually all I got was the "I like you... as a friend" speech. It wasn't until I stopped giving a s**t that I started getting results. It's human nature, you can either fight it or learn to use it...

 

[1337]

ok think about it this way she got with you and put with your ******. thats the ***** she likes and it worked on her. Do you think if you were more soft or tried the gentleman approach she would be with you? Whenever a girl changes an ****** until what she wants she loses interest and moves on. Remember girls behavior contradicts what they say. They will never be man of their words cause their women.

 

[Tyson420]

You'll eventually find girls who like you for who are.

But most girls are attracted to ****heads. If you want to **** more girls then do the ******* thing.

 

[penkitten]

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