a few months ago i started chatting to this HB in a coffee shop, she was very friendly and well to do.. like a serious girl, worked in banking, good education yet still feminine. we had good rapport and found out we went same gym.
i sensed she had a bf but i still got the number, she gave it but reluctantly, and she was in a rush to be off somewhere (see the bf for supermarket shopping) i know this cos i went to do my shopping after and as i walked past an aisle they were coming towards me, she gave me a retrospective look but cos i was wearing my glasses and i didn't head turn i didn't acknowledge her.
the thing is, she's taller than me bare foot which puts me off a bit even though she's very attractive. so i proceed to text her looking to friendzone her as she might have some hot friends. she replies, i reply then i again then a couple weeks later i continue where i left off but she ignores it, then again a couple weeks later (i actually respect her for that i.e. being a good gf - tho they say if she's attracted she'll either not mention a bf or act as if she doesn'[t have one so it's hard to say whether she's a genuine good girl)
i end up whatsapping her from my other phone, she didn't recognise the number so we got into a back n forth, i mentioned my gf (pre emptive in order to get a favorable response from her or at least get her to reply) this let her guard down and i said 'we can be good friends' she replied with 'cool.' still no mention of bf though.
yesterday i whatsapp'd her again asking if she goes out to so and so bars, she said she hasn't for a long while and not been out much lately. then 'why?' i said i was tryna figure out what kinda girl she was and what she usually likes to do.. she didn't reply (i sensed cos she thought i was coming on to her so i mentioned the gf again) she then opened up asking why i couldnt cope with the long distance.. (gf's moving to new york in a couple months) then we chatted a bit i tried to showcase what i was looking for in a girl and that i dont think it will last with my gf.. i said i was looking for an intelligent, kind caring girl who could cook (not cos i expect a woman to cos i can cook too but as a multi dimensional character) she proceeds to say she 'can't cook as she's too lazy and never enjoyed it' i never actually asked her if she could cook.. basically instead of her qualifying herself she disqualified herself to me?
anyway we had a bit of back n forth then she ended it saying she was in gym and battery was about to die and speak soon.. i didnt respond (in the past couple convos i'd have the last word with 'ok' or something) but i felt im too available to her atention wise so left it.. i noticed she came back on whatsapp a few times (from the last seen bit)
fast forward today, cos i didn't reply to her she sends me some BS attention seeking msg of 'i love it when the weather is so nice like it is today sunny
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basically i know she's testing to see if i'll respond quickily and wants to reassure herself im not angry or upset that she ended our convo yesterday.. i could have maybe waited longer to reply as i've been replying almost instantaneously and wanted to wait for her to be on a couple times in the last seen before i responded.. i just gave a positive nothing message of yeah that's great blah blah no smilies nothing.. im almost testing her to see if she follows up.. i know im suppose to act busy and less available but this still leads to the question of what benefits will i have friendzoning her?
i just feel we wouldnt work as a couple, the height issue too much BUT when things end with her bf if they do (i suspect they been together a few years) i' can be there to comfort her and maybe get laid. plus she's a cool person.
i sensed she had a bf but i still got the number, she gave it but reluctantly, and she was in a rush to be off somewhere (see the bf for supermarket shopping) i know this cos i went to do my shopping after and as i walked past an aisle they were coming towards me, she gave me a retrospective look but cos i was wearing my glasses and i didn't head turn i didn't acknowledge her.
the thing is, she's taller than me bare foot which puts me off a bit even though she's very attractive. so i proceed to text her looking to friendzone her as she might have some hot friends. she replies, i reply then i again then a couple weeks later i continue where i left off but she ignores it, then again a couple weeks later (i actually respect her for that i.e. being a good gf - tho they say if she's attracted she'll either not mention a bf or act as if she doesn'[t have one so it's hard to say whether she's a genuine good girl)
i end up whatsapping her from my other phone, she didn't recognise the number so we got into a back n forth, i mentioned my gf (pre emptive in order to get a favorable response from her or at least get her to reply) this let her guard down and i said 'we can be good friends' she replied with 'cool.' still no mention of bf though.
yesterday i whatsapp'd her again asking if she goes out to so and so bars, she said she hasn't for a long while and not been out much lately. then 'why?' i said i was tryna figure out what kinda girl she was and what she usually likes to do.. she didn't reply (i sensed cos she thought i was coming on to her so i mentioned the gf again) she then opened up asking why i couldnt cope with the long distance.. (gf's moving to new york in a couple months) then we chatted a bit i tried to showcase what i was looking for in a girl and that i dont think it will last with my gf.. i said i was looking for an intelligent, kind caring girl who could cook (not cos i expect a woman to cos i can cook too but as a multi dimensional character) she proceeds to say she 'can't cook as she's too lazy and never enjoyed it' i never actually asked her if she could cook.. basically instead of her qualifying herself she disqualified herself to me?
anyway we had a bit of back n forth then she ended it saying she was in gym and battery was about to die and speak soon.. i didnt respond (in the past couple convos i'd have the last word with 'ok' or something) but i felt im too available to her atention wise so left it.. i noticed she came back on whatsapp a few times (from the last seen bit)
fast forward today, cos i didn't reply to her she sends me some BS attention seeking msg of 'i love it when the weather is so nice like it is today sunny
'basically i know she's testing to see if i'll respond quickily and wants to reassure herself im not angry or upset that she ended our convo yesterday.. i could have maybe waited longer to reply as i've been replying almost instantaneously and wanted to wait for her to be on a couple times in the last seen before i responded.. i just gave a positive nothing message of yeah that's great blah blah no smilies nothing.. im almost testing her to see if she follows up.. i know im suppose to act busy and less available but this still leads to the question of what benefits will i have friendzoning her?
i just feel we wouldnt work as a couple, the height issue too much BUT when things end with her bf if they do (i suspect they been together a few years) i' can be there to comfort her and maybe get laid. plus she's a cool person.
