Okay, so im in college, ive known this girl for 2 years now, entering a 3rd year, shes pretty cute and smart, to be honest, shes hot, but shes single, and shes been single for 3 years, and i know that she had only 1 bf, i think i fell in love with her the 1st day i saw her but i think im in kind of a friendzone, i think i gave her hints that i liked her, i even wrote a poem for her and i read it to her,she liked it, but she tought it was for some other girl ive been talking about few months prior to this, told her it was for her, and i was kinda tipsy when i told her that... i dont know, guys i need help, i feel like shes the one, but then, im afraid of spending so much time and wasting years of my life, any tips ?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Friendzone or nah ?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
wifehunter
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I'd take a step back to do some thinking, get some objectivity.
parkthebus
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Yes you're friendzoned and no the one does not exist.
EyeBRollin
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If you aren't having sex with her or she's not begging you to be her boyfriend, you are probably in the "friend zone."
Building_and_Loan
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If you have known her for years and have not made a move on her even though she's hot, then she does not respect you as a man.
Therefore, you will get nothing. Sorry. However, it's not too late to change your ways.
Therefore, you will get nothing. Sorry. However, it's not too late to change your ways.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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lol, im a man, thats for sure. Yeah, well, its not just me and her, our circle of friends is kinda big, and if i try do do something, its gonna make things weird, not that im afraid of rejection. The thing im trying to say, is that shes not that typical girl, plus shes a virgin, i feel like shes waiting for that someone special, and im trying to be that guy, but maybe you guys are right, maybe i should just stahp and move on
yungballa
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I'll give you my two cents.
You're in the friendzone, I can tell. The fact that you've known her for two years and there's been no sexual vibe between you (and she's not flirting with you) or dropping any hints that she's interested in you, then you're friendzoned. Trust me, ask yourself deep down. Does this girl really like you? I think you know the answer to this question.
What do I think you should do? Sorry buddy, but there's no such thing as "the one." You should read the DJ bible and the Rational Male, or anything red-pill related. There is no such thing as the one. You'll meet plenty of girls over and over and think they are "the one" just because you're attracted to them. Stop it. There's no such thing, it's nothing but a lie; something society conditioned you to think of. If you were talking to five different girls at the same time, you won't be thinking there's such thing as "the one."
Anyways, I honestly think you should just forget about trying to get with her. Eliminate her from your life and just move on, talk to other women and get experience with other girls as you talk to them.
But... if you have reeaallly set your sights on getting her...
Now, my advice is if you really want her, you might have to start being more sexual with her. Flirt with her more, give her more compliments, touch her, tease her, use your tools of game on her, just don't do anything that's out of character, that's unneccesary becauser you've been her friend for two years and you're most likely already comfortable with each other. In short, if you REALLY want her that bad, make it known with YOUR ACTIONS that you like her. Stop talking to her like she's your friend, and talk to her like you're trying to seduce her.
I was in your situation not too many weeks ago. It was one of my best friends that I was comfortable being friends with and I just ignored my attraction for her (it was a brother-sister type relationship), but then I started to embrace my sexuality towards her and I put it into action. I tried; but I didn't get to any sexual stages with her. I'd say I'm still in the friend zone. She changed schools, anyway (I was planning to cut her off from my life b/c I wasn't satisfied with a friendship with a girl I'm attracted to).
So, in short, if you're in the friendzone and you're attracted to her, go for her and show her with your actions (sexually) that you want her, and you want more than a friend ship. NOT verbally, use your ACTIONS. But, if you fail to remove yourself from the friendzone, just drop her altogether, unless, of course, you enjoy just being friends with her (Which I see nothing wrong with that).
Also, your join date says you joined yesterday... please read the DJ bible, it'll help you tremendously, most likely even transform your life! It definitely saved me, and a lot of others on this site, I'll tell you that...
You're in the friendzone, I can tell. The fact that you've known her for two years and there's been no sexual vibe between you (and she's not flirting with you) or dropping any hints that she's interested in you, then you're friendzoned. Trust me, ask yourself deep down. Does this girl really like you? I think you know the answer to this question.
What do I think you should do? Sorry buddy, but there's no such thing as "the one." You should read the DJ bible and the Rational Male, or anything red-pill related. There is no such thing as the one. You'll meet plenty of girls over and over and think they are "the one" just because you're attracted to them. Stop it. There's no such thing, it's nothing but a lie; something society conditioned you to think of. If you were talking to five different girls at the same time, you won't be thinking there's such thing as "the one."
Anyways, I honestly think you should just forget about trying to get with her. Eliminate her from your life and just move on, talk to other women and get experience with other girls as you talk to them.
But... if you have reeaallly set your sights on getting her...
Now, my advice is if you really want her, you might have to start being more sexual with her. Flirt with her more, give her more compliments, touch her, tease her, use your tools of game on her, just don't do anything that's out of character, that's unneccesary becauser you've been her friend for two years and you're most likely already comfortable with each other. In short, if you REALLY want her that bad, make it known with YOUR ACTIONS that you like her. Stop talking to her like she's your friend, and talk to her like you're trying to seduce her.
I was in your situation not too many weeks ago. It was one of my best friends that I was comfortable being friends with and I just ignored my attraction for her (it was a brother-sister type relationship), but then I started to embrace my sexuality towards her and I put it into action. I tried; but I didn't get to any sexual stages with her. I'd say I'm still in the friend zone. She changed schools, anyway (I was planning to cut her off from my life b/c I wasn't satisfied with a friendship with a girl I'm attracted to).
So, in short, if you're in the friendzone and you're attracted to her, go for her and show her with your actions (sexually) that you want her, and you want more than a friend ship. NOT verbally, use your ACTIONS. But, if you fail to remove yourself from the friendzone, just drop her altogether, unless, of course, you enjoy just being friends with her (Which I see nothing wrong with that).
Also, your join date says you joined yesterday... please read the DJ bible, it'll help you tremendously, most likely even transform your life! It definitely saved me, and a lot of others on this site, I'll tell you that...
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Lozboss
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No you're not a man. A MAN goes for what he wants- doesn't worry over the social circle.
Either move on or make a move. Two choices.
Dressed is right. Time for you to unplug. Read: The Rational male.
Do this ASAP.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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You're friendzoned. She probably did know that the poem was from you but didnt want to hurt you. Don't go out of your way for anymore man cuz the steps you'd need totake to **** her are pretty much gone.
Maximus Rex
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Of course she liked it, you gave her a gang of unwarranted attention.
How was being afraid of going after the p*ssy and going full on needy beta male faggot with this broad suppose to benefit you.
Read the DJ Bible and the Book of Pook.
And pray tell why do you feel this way considering that you've never seen this chick naked.
You know what that is a picture of? No Rex. What is it? That's a Roman legion. Do you know what the guy in the front is? No Rex, what is the guy in the the back? He's the commander of the legion, a centurion. What is your point Rex?
Well to this broad, you're knowing more than those dudes carrying the shields, a just a mere legionnaire in her legion of followers. You've f*cked up so bad with this chick, that you might actually be the centurion in her legion of followers. My advice is to learn game and holla at other chicks because it's a wrap with ole girl.
Guys, thank you a lot, you guys helped ! Im' going to get more sexual with her, let her know that im atracted to her, and if she declines, its hr loss, because i got other girls who want my **** pretty bad, ill show her, either youre on this boat or youre not ! Btw, ill read those books , ty guys !
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Rex mayne, don-t do that to the legions please hahahaha. Holy ****
Of course she liked it, you gave her a gang of unwarranted attention.
How was being afraid of going after the p*ssy and going full on needy beta male faggot with this broad suppose to benefit you.
Read the DJ Bible and the Book of Pook.
And pray tell why do you feel this way considering that you've never seen this chick naked.
You know what that is a picture of? No Rex. What is it? That's a Roman legion. Do you know what the guy in the front is? No Rex, what is the guy in the the back? He's the commander of the legion, a centurion. What is your point Rex?
Well to this broad, you're knowing more than those dudes carrying the shields, a just a mere legionnaire in her legion of followers. You've f*cked up so bad with this chick, that you might actually be the centurion in her legion of followers. My advice is to learn game and holla at other chicks because it's a wrap with ole girl.
NSX-R
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Rexy is on fire!! hahahahah
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.