"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Friendzone her first

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I tried out something from an old post I saw. Met a chick at happy hour last night.

After talking for a while.

Me: so you seem like a cool chick. Always looking to meet new friends. Give me your number.
HB: So you just want to hang out as friends?
Me: I'm always looking for new friends, unless the right girl comes along then maybe more.

She gave me her number. I was just curious to try something different. Got the # not sure how it will turn out but I'm spinning four plates and could care less if this one works out, hence the experiment.

Thoughts?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I thought about trying this before but had no plates to fall back on.

Let us know how it goes.

Oh and props for living up to your name :cool:
 

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Worked in the past for me. I sometimes say something like "at the very least you and me can be good friends."
 

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She was like a HB8. Hottest chick at the happy hour but wasn't saying much because everyone else there was gross. I was always curious if this worked. If you google "he friendzoned me" you see a bunch of chicks with their hamster running complaining on message boards. Just figured worth a try. If it doesn't work, no real loss.

There are a few threads on here where they have said it worked. I'm also working on another plate in my social group that I've been "friends" with for a few years but she's always had a boyfriend. Just never made a move on her. Curious to see how that works too.
 

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HB: So you just want to hang out as friends?
Me: I'm always looking for new friends, unless the right girl comes along then maybe more.


The key is to escalate while having that "friend" frame in place. The paradox will make her hamster go nuts. This way it will play out as "welllll it just sorta happened" and gives her that fairytale like story. Just dont plan on seriously making her a friend then try to escalate. Im sure you already knew this though....if a girl desexualizes you its game over.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It's funny, because chicks get fvcking PISSED when you friendzone them. They're not used to it and they feel rejected. "Omg is he not attracted to me? Omg he DOESN'T want to fvck me?" I need to start doing this more when I get resistance, because I tend to come on waaaay too strong and blow myself out.
 

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I enthusiastically endorse the technique, as it's field-tested in my life. I've used this to great effect from time to time.
 

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I totally forgot about this technique! I think I first heard it a while back reading something from David D.

But yeah, it works great. I used to use it all the time. Chicks go crazy, it totally re-frames it. Afterwards they're telling their friends. "yeah, and then I got him to have sex with me!!" lol

What a few failed LTR's will do to you. Thanks for the thread OP, I gotta get my game going again.
 

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What's the lyric from that song "Sign Your Name" from Terence Trent D'Arby?

We started out as friends
But the thought of you just caves me in


I'm going to try this out sometime.
 
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