"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Friendzone and crazy for other guys questions

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I am 17 years old and in 11 grade. I really, really like this one girl, and I have for a long time. Thing is, she goes every summer to San Diego, and is insane about the guys there. She says they are super cute and all. That is really hard to listen to. I asked her out last summer, and she said she just liked being friends. That sucks. I go to school in Ecuaodr, in South America. she is in my home town in the states(Melbourne Beach,Florida). So you see, I can play the Gangi games really well on her, but what do I need to do in this situation? I go back every summer and sometimes for Christmas, and the rest of her family treats me like one of the family.So first, how do I get out of the friendzone, and second, how do I get her to start thinking about me instead of those San Diego guys? Any other suggestions about anything would be appreciated as well. Thanks.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The friendzone is actually quite easy to get out of. However, with your current mindset and attitude, it might prove difficult.

Take your mind off this one girl for a bit and detach from this situation. If she says she is happy being friends, then keep it that way and treat her the same way she treats you, like a friend.
 

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O.K. will try to do that , but what else should I do?
 

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Originally posted by wavejams007
and the rest of her family treats me like one of the family.
Game over.
 

wavejams007

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I just really realized the problem with getting along really well withthe rest of the family, but is there absolutely nothing more to be done(besides move on)?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Re: Re: Friendzone and crazy for other guys questions

Originally posted by LikRetsam
Game over.
No not game over. He has a CHANCE. It's just hard. If you want to get out of the friend zone it's just up to you if it's worth the work. Read up on cynetix's post about this. It's in the DJ bible man.

Good luck.
 

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Thanks Void. Your support is appreciated, although the "game over" guy" is as well cuz everyone needs a little criticism. I have read some of your other posts Void, and u got a amen brother from me.
 

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Let me restate myself.... If he had the necessary skills to getting out of this situation, he wouldn't post this. This girl isn't going to happen in 'correct' circumstances.
 

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U R right Likretsam. I probably don't have the neccessary skills to get this girl right now. But that is why I am asking. Duh. So instead of acting like all that , think of the whole point of this thread.
 
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