"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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friendship turning into something more?

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Guys i need your help. Recently this girl ive been mates with for like a year or so has been giving me like some hints that she wants to move things further.
These hints can range from like when we go out together to chill outaround town centre and if i start to eye up other girls she will get really annoyed and go all moody and even sometimes stop talking to me? i means whats that all about she never used to before. does this mean she likes me or something else?
also recently i lost my mobileand had not contacted her for like a week or so and she rings my work place and starts to scream and shout over the phone.... i explained what had happened but she said it was just an excuse
Also a few weeks ago i went round to her house and she was wearing the most seductive clothes and also no-one else was at home. All i wanted to do was play the playstation, but she kept saying things like "oh i wanna tell you something but i cant" or "do you ever feel like youwanna say something but it just doesnt come out". i kind of thought i knew what she was on about but i didnt want to say it incase that wasn't the case and i made a ool out of myself.
Please if ANYONE has had a similiar experience and can offer ?Please if ANYONE has had a similiar experience and can offer some advice it would be much appericiated as she wants to meet me next week and shes invited me around to herhouse again? any tips..pleASE??????????
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Ummmm...This girl sounds like she is going to be a sucky girlfriend.

My tip? Weed her out before you go out with her. In other words, find someone better and more deserving of your attention! I don't think she's worth the time.
I mean, C'mon, "Scream and shout" at you for losing your cellphone? Dude...no girl should EVER beable to treat you like that. NEXT.

Oh, and read this:

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/

All of it.
 

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My 2c....

live_every_moment: This girl seems to be very clingy, which means that if you go out with her, she will NOT leave you alone, and I personally don’t like that.... Anyways, you need to ask yourself the following questions:

{1} Do you want HER as your girlfriend?

{2} Do you want to be in a relationship at the moment?

{3} You going out with her will lead to the possibility (very high possibility) that the 2 of you will not be friends when you break up one day... So is it worth giving up the friendship?

{4} Do you have feelings for her?

Otherwise... It is obvious that she wants something more than to just be your friend, she wants you to be her boyfriend.

The one other thing that she might be hinting is that she just wants to get sexual with you... like friends with benefits. But I think she wants more than that, a relationship is what I personally think she wants from you. Now is that something you are willing to give her?

If I were you, I would take some time to think hard about what YOU want, and then take the necessary steps.... weather its telling her that you know where things are going, and u know what’s going on in her head, but you would prefer it if the 2 of you would stay friends because you don’t see her in any other way.... OR to just ask her out.

Good Luck, with whatever you do... I look forward to an update on this;)


Laterz...
 
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thanks AeQu|TaS ,
its kind of starting to make sence now, but i dont know if i like her or not. i think i need to figure this out. But i dont want to get emotional and that coz i know for a fact that girls dontlike that they prefer jerks to nice guys? rite ? anyways thanks for you advice 'ill take it on board. I'll post you what happened next week hopefully! c ya then. and its true... you should live_every_moment as if its your last... forget getting old you dont even know if you will be alive the next min letalone a few years.
 
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