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Don Juan
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I'm 19. So I have been friends with this girl who I find to be a lot of fun, and pretty attractive 7.3/10 or so, and I decided to take her on a date which went fine and ended up with our first kiss. Then I hung out with her a little later (2 days), and I think I might have gone to far on her for a second hang out day, and because of this I'm not sure what to do anymore.
No sex, but lots of stuff before it. We discussed the situation afterwards and our feelings and came to the conclusion that we may have gone to fast.
Now I am a little over a month of being single after an almost 4 year relationship, and I'm not looking for any commitments, and possibly may be having a reaction of being uncomfortable as a result of my mental state of possibly not being fully ready to move on and offer any major emotional efforts. It's like I don't have a drive for intense liking that causes me to want to care a lot about her. It also has been my first hook up since the 4 year LTR, and it felt very weird (almost foreign to my body), which I believe is a result of my body being familiar with someone else and something else, almost like a habit being broken (is this natural after a LTR?).
I have a feeling that she might be looking for something a little more than friends with benefits because she told me she wasn't that type of girl for "friends with benefits." BUT She clearly stated to me that she wasn't looking for a relationship either, and just wants to have fun and have someone to talk to (plus she stated its not worth it cuz she's going away to college in 6 months), but how do I go about making the right move so that I'm not tied down to her and can do whatever I want? I don't want to hurt her.
What the hell should I do? I've told her that I don't want to hurt her because I feel like I don't want to push her further than I have (basically giving her the idea that I'm not willing or ready to offer anything emotional), and she has stated that she appreciates me not forcing her into any decision. I feel like we're at a stand still where both of us have basically said to one another that we're not sure what we want.
Should I just move on and stay friends only? Or is that too late? Or should I give it another shot?
No sex, but lots of stuff before it. We discussed the situation afterwards and our feelings and came to the conclusion that we may have gone to fast.
Now I am a little over a month of being single after an almost 4 year relationship, and I'm not looking for any commitments, and possibly may be having a reaction of being uncomfortable as a result of my mental state of possibly not being fully ready to move on and offer any major emotional efforts. It's like I don't have a drive for intense liking that causes me to want to care a lot about her. It also has been my first hook up since the 4 year LTR, and it felt very weird (almost foreign to my body), which I believe is a result of my body being familiar with someone else and something else, almost like a habit being broken (is this natural after a LTR?).
I have a feeling that she might be looking for something a little more than friends with benefits because she told me she wasn't that type of girl for "friends with benefits." BUT She clearly stated to me that she wasn't looking for a relationship either, and just wants to have fun and have someone to talk to (plus she stated its not worth it cuz she's going away to college in 6 months), but how do I go about making the right move so that I'm not tied down to her and can do whatever I want? I don't want to hurt her.
What the hell should I do? I've told her that I don't want to hurt her because I feel like I don't want to push her further than I have (basically giving her the idea that I'm not willing or ready to offer anything emotional), and she has stated that she appreciates me not forcing her into any decision. I feel like we're at a stand still where both of us have basically said to one another that we're not sure what we want.
Should I just move on and stay friends only? Or is that too late? Or should I give it another shot?
