Friends?

[SgtSplacker]

I haven't been here for a while so I have a couple things in queue I have been meaning to present to the board. I'm 40 years old, and I have some old buddies I knew back in HS I still run into randomly. These guys are the type of people you learned early on not to trust. They will steal your things and your women if given half the chance. I know this I have always known this, they are this way with each other, this is them, this is their way, they don't try to hide this. It is what it is.

OK so the other day I take a female friend to a bar (a cheap bar) and they are there. They invite me over to sit with them, and I know full well that they are going to try to get her number. They do and she denies them, and I still cut her off just because she was showing interest in one of them, maybe she was just trying to make me jealous? either way she was done.

The question is this. I actually value them trying to pick her up because it lets me test a HO. I seriously don't mind it, but i'm torn on whether I need to have a little talk with them about respect or not.

The reason why i'm torn about this is because they don't really hide their shenanigans. He asked her for her number right in front of me because she showed interest in him. Before this point he even was trying to make me look good in front of her. the dude really doesn't act in any other way I would expect a guy to act. It's all very up front and open, the way it should be.

 

[cof33]

I MEAN if you just want her to get some thats cool but if u got feelings for her you just too old to b dealin wit bs like that...

it sounds like you got punked imo

 

[Iceberg]

The question is this. I actually value them trying to pick her up because it lets me test a HO. I seriously don't mind it, but i'm torn on whether I need to have a little talk with them about respect or not.

I don't know, man. Not to sound like a mother, but if this is how your friends show that they value your friendship, then you probably shouldn't spend time with them. I doubt "a little talk about respect" is gonna change them.

The reason why i'm torn about this is because they don't really hide their shenanigans. He asked her for her number right in front of me because she showed interest in him. Before this point he even was trying to make me look good in front of her. the dude really doesn't act in any other way I would expect a guy to act. It's all very up front and open, the way it should be.

Well, it's good that he's not doing shady stuff behind your back. But if this stuff bothers you, I'd just stop bringing girls around these dudes.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Just to be clear these are people I have known for like 20 years. Good friends they are not, but they are far from strangers. It's a strange relationship we have, we were never good friends and never will be because I have already moved past their high school nonsense. I know I cant trust them like that, but they have covered my ass in the past when I have had bar altercations. It's hard to explain... most accurately described as "sh!tty friends" lol