"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Friends with benefits aka f - friend

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oki so i know this is usually every guys dream....

but i was kinda wondering who actually makes the suggestion, and how....???

im not in the place where im thinking of asking a girl to be my f-friend... im just wondering to satisfy my couriosity.....
Ive never had just a f-friend they either wanted a rlt or nothing and for me it was mostly a one night stand cuz dont like the hole rlt thing , to much stress for me at my age atleast =P

it has to be the girl right ?
Mostly the girl right ?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It takes a really special/liberated girl for you to turn her into an f-buddy... I've had a few, but my experience has been that after a while of the f-buddy situation, they usually develop real feelings for you, and may not ever even admit it. It can create problems.

I usually make things very clear that all i'm into is sex, and I go on a long speach about how there's nothing wrong with it... yadda yadda..... break down the social conditioning and make her realise that friends with benefits would be a great idea.

I just found out my more recent F-buddy is Bi!!!! and she wants to involve me in something!! I'm pumped hehe.
 
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Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian

I just found out my more recent F-buddy is Bi!!!! and she wants to involve me in something!! I'm pumped hehe.
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hehehe :up:

i guess THAT is actually every guys dream =P if it is what I think it is , and I think it IS..... =P

good luck with that =)

cheers
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(and yes i do have that same pink dress and the pink pongpongs =P )
 
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Initially, it seems perfect, too good to be true. And if all you are after is a CASUAL sexual relationship, basically mutual mastrubation, where you sleep together afterwards, no strings attached, all the benefits of an intimate relationship without the laundry, the bills,and the real life stuff that always gets in the way, it's a fantastic route.

However, just because you are her f**k buddy, dont think that you are the only one. And there are no set rules, or laws. She may want to see you on Saturday night, and then not again for a week or a month, or three weeks. Do you honestly believe that a liberated, free, single and indenpendent woman like this is sleeping alone during that time? Hell no, she is getting f**ked by "Chad" and Brad" on consecutive nights, one has $$$ the other is a restafarian hippie with lots o' weed on hand.

The best thing to do is enjoy the ride while it lasts. If feeling start coming into the picture, deal with them accordingly.
 
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iight. HOW would you slip this topic of conversation?should i just ask, do u want to do naughty stuff with me?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It's not worth to have that kind of relationship. If you do, than do whatever you, JUST DONT FALL IN LOVE WITH HER.

I dont know about you guys but feeling that i'm in love is very bad for me. I stop bieng i player when i feel i'm in love...it makes me have no success with any women (exactly my opposite)!
 
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Just tell her where you stand and what do you want. If you see a potential f-buddy, from the get go i usually tell females that am not looking for a relationship or nothing serious. Just hang out and kick it.
 
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I know this isn't the "alpha man" way of doing things, but I recently came right out and asked a female friend of mine if she wanted to be my FB. I explained that I'm now single but not by choice and so is she, I'm 100% disease-free and so is she, no one would ever have to know, etc....

She declined.

Now here's the telling part; she explained that she does "love me as a friend" and so on. I explained that this has nothing whatsoever to do with love/affection/romance or whatever, but she still didn't quite grasp the concept. I don't have any "romantic" feelings toward her, but I would like to bang her.

This demonstrates what most of the master Don Juans always say; emotional is always better than horny.
 
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Originally posted by GuitarPlayer
I know this isn't the "alpha man" way of doing things, but I recently came right out and asked a female friend of mine if she wanted to be my FB. I explained that I'm now single but not by choice and so is she, I'm 100% disease-free and so is she, no one would ever have to know, etc....

She declined.

Now here's the telling part; she explained that she does "love me as a friend" and so on. I explained that this has nothing whatsoever to do with love/affection/romance or whatever, but she still didn't quite grasp the concept. I don't have any "romantic" feelings toward her, but I would like to bang her.

This demonstrates what most of the master Don Juans always say; emotional is always better than horny.
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Sexual Chemisrtry. It's either there, or it's not. It cannot be bought, reasoned, pleaded, or begged. This female friend of yours wont lay down naked with you ever, for all the tea in China. She doesnt "feel it" with you, and the Don Juans on this site dont get that fact. Find a woman who you do KNOW that MUTUAL chemistry exists, and then you can try your little F-Buddies experiment.
 
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Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian


I just found out my more recent F-buddy is Bi!!!! and she wants to involve me in something!! I'm pumped hehe.
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Get it on video biatch :woo: :woo: :woo:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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There are 2 ways:
1. its a girl that you know from long time, Your friend. You start ****y sex talking and one day after party or so You simple have sex with her. Also if shes dumped by her guy or upset You joke You may have sex with her, and it happends. After all You say 'You know we cant be together'.
2. Its a girl You dont know at all, like You meet on a party. You have sex, take her phone no. And from this time You call her sometimes when You want to have sex. But not too often.

Mainly 2nd situation is better, because from 1st one, as the girl knows You she may fall in love or so. I had woman of both of those cathegories.
 
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Originally posted by DonJuanMonk
Get it on video biatch :woo: :woo: :woo:
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dude, trust me.... if this happens, which I'm pretty sure it will in due time (I'm out of town for another month!!!) I'm gonna get me some video footage, pics, someone drawing pictures, in the corner like it's a courtroom!! whatever hahahaha
 
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Originally posted by JackPrescott
Sexual Chemisrtry. It's either there, or it's not. It cannot be bought, reasoned, pleaded, or begged. This female friend of yours wont lay down naked with you ever, for all the tea in China. She doesnt "feel it" with you, and the Don Juans on this site dont get that fact. Find a woman who you do KNOW that MUTUAL chemistry exists, and then you can try your little F-Buddies experiment.
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I agree. We're still great friends and neither of us ever brings up the subject of "The Proposition." :D

I also agree about her never doing the deed with me. It doesn't bother me, though. It would have a couple of years ago. It would have been a direct blow to my ego. Now I can keep it in the proper perspective, so it's all good.
 
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