The Comeback Kid
Master Don Juan
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One of my best friends at school and I click extremely well. One reason I feel this is the case is because we have near-opposite personalities, so a little bit of everything comes out. Being currently single (he has a gf), I am seeing if there is anything he does that can add a new wrinkle to my game. As you'll see, we have a lot of differences, I tried to parallel them:
MY FRIEND - VERY outgoing and very loud. He is great with social politics - he can put on a nice face with people he can't stand. However, he wears his emotions on his sleeve - it's easy to tell if he is upset or frustrated. Things will get to him. He is either absolutely brilliant at something or is a train wreck. He's a bag of surprises, you don't know what you're going to get. He rubs people the right or wrong way based on how he says or does something. Not quite as disciplined (sticking to a particular routine), but more adventurous. He specializes in going off-the-cuff, come he11 or high water. If a challenge arises, he'll bull-rush into it, try to make an impact and go from there. My friend is good at topping people in competition that he should beat, but can't take down the unbeatable person/team. He is normally the "favorite" - because he can be very, very successful at certain things, people tend to put faith in him and can put up with his horrific lows.
ME - Gregarious/talkative, but not really loud. I don't like social politics, I feel it takes away from who you really are - I'm civil towards those that I can't stand, but I won't necessarily hide the truth either. However, I don't get upset or frustrated often - I guess you could say I'm extremely even-tempered. Not a lot of things get to me now. My production, while normally good, is very consistent. There aren't many surprises with me - you know what you're getting. I rub people the right or wrong way based on what I say or do. More disciplined, I stick to my core values and maintain a rigorous fitness regimen. I like to mentally prepare for things in advance to prevent any unwanted surprises or embarrassments. If a challenge arises, I'll take a step back, survey the situation, and determine my plan from there. I have a penchant for taking down the top person/team in something, but make competitions against people I should beat a little closer than they should be. I've always been an "underdog," working for people's faith and trust. I have little room for error. The positive with this is that it pushes me to be my best and it has built character over time.
THOUGHTS: I like that things do not get to me easily and I like that I'm consistent and disciplined with a lot of things. However, I also feel this creates the image that I'm somewhat predictable or boring, even if that's not true. On the opposite end of the spectrum, my friend is all over the place. He's successful at a lot of the things he does (as am I), and I feel that the "not knowing what you're going to get" makes him more unpredictable and therefore more "fun." I'm more of the safe investment while he is high risk-high reward.
I know this post drags on a little bit, but is there anything you see here that I could add to my repertoire that would help me with gaming/dating? I'm always looking to improve and figured this would be a good comparison point.
MY FRIEND - VERY outgoing and very loud. He is great with social politics - he can put on a nice face with people he can't stand. However, he wears his emotions on his sleeve - it's easy to tell if he is upset or frustrated. Things will get to him. He is either absolutely brilliant at something or is a train wreck. He's a bag of surprises, you don't know what you're going to get. He rubs people the right or wrong way based on how he says or does something. Not quite as disciplined (sticking to a particular routine), but more adventurous. He specializes in going off-the-cuff, come he11 or high water. If a challenge arises, he'll bull-rush into it, try to make an impact and go from there. My friend is good at topping people in competition that he should beat, but can't take down the unbeatable person/team. He is normally the "favorite" - because he can be very, very successful at certain things, people tend to put faith in him and can put up with his horrific lows.
ME - Gregarious/talkative, but not really loud. I don't like social politics, I feel it takes away from who you really are - I'm civil towards those that I can't stand, but I won't necessarily hide the truth either. However, I don't get upset or frustrated often - I guess you could say I'm extremely even-tempered. Not a lot of things get to me now. My production, while normally good, is very consistent. There aren't many surprises with me - you know what you're getting. I rub people the right or wrong way based on what I say or do. More disciplined, I stick to my core values and maintain a rigorous fitness regimen. I like to mentally prepare for things in advance to prevent any unwanted surprises or embarrassments. If a challenge arises, I'll take a step back, survey the situation, and determine my plan from there. I have a penchant for taking down the top person/team in something, but make competitions against people I should beat a little closer than they should be. I've always been an "underdog," working for people's faith and trust. I have little room for error. The positive with this is that it pushes me to be my best and it has built character over time.
THOUGHTS: I like that things do not get to me easily and I like that I'm consistent and disciplined with a lot of things. However, I also feel this creates the image that I'm somewhat predictable or boring, even if that's not true. On the opposite end of the spectrum, my friend is all over the place. He's successful at a lot of the things he does (as am I), and I feel that the "not knowing what you're going to get" makes him more unpredictable and therefore more "fun." I'm more of the safe investment while he is high risk-high reward.
I know this post drags on a little bit, but is there anything you see here that I could add to my repertoire that would help me with gaming/dating? I'm always looking to improve and figured this would be a good comparison point.
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