Friend's Sister invites me to "Dinner". What would you do?

[Buddha_Mind]

I've posted about a recent ended LTR, I've gotten a lot of AFC-criticism -- which truthfully, I do not take as flames because I desire IMPROVEMENT -- I've got to look at what's wrong to find out what to do to be RIGHT (am I right here, eh?)

I had moved back to the midwest about 4 months ago, having grown up in various midwest places. I have a long-time friend who I've known since I was about 15. I was an overweight kid in high school -- really developed a great deal of internal strength and lots of change through my college years and into my twenties.

I've known his sister since she was about 16. She knew the fat-timid-Buddha and saw him change into who he is presently. I've seen her on most holidays when I visit my friend -- she is very sexy, confident, takes care of her business. The last time I was with her I was involved in past-said-relationship, but definitely had a strong attraction to her also.

I believe she caught wind of my breakup, as she just recently asked me to "dinner".

My conundrum:
(a) My mind is still a little ****ed from this past break-up. I can't get involved with someone right now from a relationship standpoint...at least I don't think so.
(b) I'm setting my sights on getting back out to Seattle.
(c) She is the sister to one of my best-friends whom I consider a brother and have known since I was 15.

My fear is that if things do not end well -- or if things go in an improper path, that this will negatively effect my friendship with my old-friend [who has always been an advocate of me, and a believer in my personal success].

I am also very close to their entire family, them having known me over 10+ years now. They think very highly of me -- get excited when I come over and for some reason or another, consider me a "special presence" to be around...

What do I do? Do I have dinner 1:1 with her...I could always abstain from sexual behavior and enjoy her vibe...there is a part of me that could make a move I am most certain it would be reciprocated...but I am wondering what the best route is here...I could have fun and let it be what it is...

She has always been encouraging and supportive of my goals -- she has always thought highly of me -- and she's seen a great amount of change within me...

Is this dangerous territory? ...am I walking from one problem into another?

Am I overthinking this and should just view this as a blessing and enjoy?

Perspectives are desired please.

 

[DJDamage]

You find this woman attractive right?! you want her right?! but you fear the potential fallout?! so because of this fear you won't go out to dinner with her?! Maybe during dinner you find out she is incredible and is worth your time or maybe there won't be a strong connection and it won't be worth to pursue. You won't know for sure unless you go to dinner with her and see what she really wants.

Think of it this way, will you some day be kicking yourself for not going out with her and at least trying?!

 

[Colossus]

Am I overthinking this and should just view this as a blessing and enjoy?

Yes. You arent marrying her, it's dinner. She asked you. If you say no, then it would be weird. Just go, have a nice time, and see what's up. You'll regret it if you dont, I promise. Your LTR is a closed book now.

 

[Zunder]

Enjoy it mate. She may be just what you need or not - doesnt matter just let the night flow and enjoy.

 

[Jitterbug]

Just go and enjoy it, you're overthinking this.

Wear a chastity belt if you have to lol

 

[Johnnyventana]

I wish I super liked my brother-in-law! Go for it.

 

[PokerStar]

only start worrying about that after she gives you head.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

Lol guys thanks for the encouragement -- I enjoyed having dinner with her and will do again soon sometime. My mind is still a little fvcked from my past LTR and last night I had a moment of AFC-relapse for my ex (after leaving this other chick's place)...but I'm back to myself again...I just need to keep working on my inner & outer game and get the things I need in life...women will continue to flow the more I pursue improvement and placing less stock in them (my AFC american upbringing is deeply engrained in my psyche and I'm having to work to pull myself from this matrix on a daily basis....).

 

[MatureDJ]

If I were you, I'd tap it.

 

[Three]

Buddha, you did the right thing hanging out with her. Get back on the horse and enjoy yourself, but always be honest with her that you're not looking for a long term or serious thing. As long as that's understood and you don't act like you're in a relationship (call, hangout, etc, every day or more than once a week or so), then you should be fine. It'll be therapeutic.