"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Friends should stay friends.

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I recently started fooling around with a girl who has been one of my friends for years...

She is now totally ape**** over me and I honestly can't say I feel the same.
I just moved about an hour and a half away, and through the move and **** a relationship is the last thing on my mind...

Now I have had a mutual friend text me last night Hey Halfaddict so and so wants to be with you but she's afraid you don't want her anymore, yadda yadda...They were probably drunk talking about feelings and ****.

And I don't really want to "be with her" just a big ****in mess now..

I care about her as my friend..but I don't want to be her boyfriend and I don't know how to break it to her. It looks to me like all roads lead down the same path.

This just kind of happened and was never my intention.

All you people who actually want out of the friend zone are nuts...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Yep, I played this game last summer. No good.

Let the longtime friends stay that way, though you always wonder what it would be like to do her, when it happens it gets weird and you lose a friend.

And I'm not a guy who has awkward moments with women:cool:
 
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Valentine is right at the conner, buy her roses and ask her to marry you.
 
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This ain't a friends issue. This is a "she's not hot enough for me to give a flying rat's arse" issue.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Even so, a mutual friend stuck her nose in which makes it worse...

But I digress, it's not necessarily an issue with hotness...
I just moved from a hick town to the City of Chicago.... Opportunity, freedom, finally back out of my parents house... seriously.

I don't drive nor do I plan on getting a car anytime soon with all the public transportation.

Trying to maintain a fledgling relationship from the distance when I'm not into it in the first place is one thing... but the fact that we're really close friends that makes it a *****...
 
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At most, it will be awkward for a couple few months. Friendship prevails over shyt like that. people always think it will be forever that their freindship will be ruined. i'm usually friends with my ex's after 8 or 9 months or so. She'll get over it.
 
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Jitterbug said:
This ain't a friends issue. This is a "she's not hot enough for me to give a flying rat's arse" issue.
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This is pretty much true in most cases.


I have a couple chic friends that I refuse to bang. One is not really f*ckable from a looks perspective the other is ok looking but I'm just not feeling in that way.

The point is, as I get older, I think I've learned not to go around humping anything that comes my way because because I can. I'd rather maintain a real friendship that can just be fun and lasting because sex isn't involved.
 
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