"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Friends should stay friends.

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I recently started fooling around with a girl who has been one of my friends for years...

She is now totally ape**** over me and I honestly can't say I feel the same.
I just moved about an hour and a half away, and through the move and **** a relationship is the last thing on my mind...

Now I have had a mutual friend text me last night Hey Halfaddict so and so wants to be with you but she's afraid you don't want her anymore, yadda yadda...They were probably drunk talking about feelings and ****.

And I don't really want to "be with her" just a big ****in mess now..

I care about her as my friend..but I don't want to be her boyfriend and I don't know how to break it to her. It looks to me like all roads lead down the same path.

This just kind of happened and was never my intention.

All you people who actually want out of the friend zone are nuts...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Yep, I played this game last summer. No good.

Let the longtime friends stay that way, though you always wonder what it would be like to do her, when it happens it gets weird and you lose a friend.

And I'm not a guy who has awkward moments with women:cool:
 
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Valentine is right at the conner, buy her roses and ask her to marry you.
 
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This ain't a friends issue. This is a "she's not hot enough for me to give a flying rat's arse" issue.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Even so, a mutual friend stuck her nose in which makes it worse...

But I digress, it's not necessarily an issue with hotness...
I just moved from a hick town to the City of Chicago.... Opportunity, freedom, finally back out of my parents house... seriously.

I don't drive nor do I plan on getting a car anytime soon with all the public transportation.

Trying to maintain a fledgling relationship from the distance when I'm not into it in the first place is one thing... but the fact that we're really close friends that makes it a *****...
 
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At most, it will be awkward for a couple few months. Friendship prevails over shyt like that. people always think it will be forever that their freindship will be ruined. i'm usually friends with my ex's after 8 or 9 months or so. She'll get over it.
 
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Jitterbug said:
This ain't a friends issue. This is a "she's not hot enough for me to give a flying rat's arse" issue.
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This is pretty much true in most cases.


I have a couple chic friends that I refuse to bang. One is not really f*ckable from a looks perspective the other is ok looking but I'm just not feeling in that way.

The point is, as I get older, I think I've learned not to go around humping anything that comes my way because because I can. I'd rather maintain a real friendship that can just be fun and lasting because sex isn't involved.
 
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