"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Friends pulled a **** move, how to not let it ruin my night?

Brighty

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Basically I was gonna go pre-partying with two of my (AFC) friends. Long story short, Friend A went over to Friend B's house, assuming I'd be there as well. I called Friend B and talked to him on the phone and he said that he was gonna go to Girl A's house and I just assumed that I could go with them. He started to get awkward on the phone, and eventually I got it out of him that it wouldn't be legit if I went there. I don't really hang out with Girl A and her crowd, save for Friend B (Friend A doesn't hang out with them either), so I can see that, but for me to be completely excluded seems a bit childish. Honestly, I'm not missing much; all of those girls are stuck up and there's probably one hot girl in the group. But it's more of the principle that I'm having a problem with; I thought I was on good terms with typically everyone at my school and now my "reality" has been distorted and I've fallen out of "state". I shouldn't care, considering Girl A's crowd isn't that fun to hang around with anyway, but for some reason I do and I'm upset with my friends for "excluding" me (even though Friend B was just kind of warning me that if I went, it might be weird. I came to the decision that I wouldn't want to pre-party in that environment if people didn't want me there)

Anyway, I'm going pre-partying with some other friends of mine which have more status connected to them, so it should be a fun night... but the problem is that typically when something like this happens, I'm going to dwell on it the entire night and ruin my game for the evening.

Do you guys have any advice on how to not let this ruin my night (tonight's gonna be pretty fun!) or any ways to get pumped up and realign myself?

The sooner the answer, the better, obviously, as I'm probably leaving in an hour to go out. Thanks again guys.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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pua1989

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what the hell? are you kidding me? im sorry but thats just stupid. he isnt excluding you, you just cant go over there. its not his decision to make. ive had to do it many times and **** it sucks to do it to some of my best buddies, but **** happens. you dont know the exact circumstances, so why dwell on it. for all you know someones parents might be coming home soon and hes lucky that he himself was able to go over or some other bs like that. just go get wasted and bone some *****es
 

Brighty

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pua1989 said:
what the hell? are you kidding me? im sorry but thats just stupid. he isnt excluding you, you just cant go over there. its not his decision to make. ive had to do it many times and **** it sucks to do it to some of my best buddies, but **** happens. you dont know the exact circumstances, so why dwell on it. for all you know someones parents might be coming home soon and hes lucky that he himself was able to go over or some other bs like that. just go get wasted and bone some *****es
You're absolutely right, I dunno sometimes I just take things too far and I need some sensible person to tell me I'm being a ****ing vagina about it and wake me up.

Anyway, holy **** my night was absolutely amazing. Most memorable night in a long time, and I honestly owe a lot of it to jon024's Journal. It changed my entire outlook on the game and how to play it. Just reading through it from page one and god damn, it helped me out in so many subtle ways.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=134914
 
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