"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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penguin

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OK this question isn't aimed at ultimately 'hooking up with' any female friend, but it is something that has just been plain bugging me and has got me stumped.

I have a bunch of friends, males and females. Now having both genders in a group of friends, there's often hugs etc. exchanged, completely friendly. It's also common for small jokes to be exchanged such as 'come to bed with me <name> ;)' and it's all fun and well.

BUT, the thing is, i'm basically the one person who has never been asked for a hug from any of the females.... and the playful jokes are never directed towards me. Don't get me wrong, I have fun with all female friends and we get along well, it's just in these small situations I wonder why I am left out.

I just don't understand... i'm not an intimidating guy, i get along with everyone great, and it's not like i come off as 'creepy' to them because, to be quite honest, I have no interest in any of them any further than friends.

Example: if GirlA is laying on couch, she may just put her legs across someone who wants to sit there, so she stills gets to lay etc. But it's almost guaranteed that she'll sit up when i'm on it, and not interfere with my space. She'll also most likely move her stuff for me and be like "don't mind all my crap" etc.

Any ideas on why this could be? This isn't a big deal on it's own, but I figure if , for example, i'm walking around with a "don't touch me or i'll kill you" look on my face, then it will extend to women i'm actually interested in and that's no good.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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snintel

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They are just not as comfortable with you, or on the same level as they are with the other guys. They are probably afraid to do that because they don't know if you would be cool with it.....
 

sstype

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it could be you are lacking sex appeal for these babes to molest you like they are doing to your other friends. Increase that and see what happens
 

iCY

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like the first person said. they arent comfortable with you yet because they dont know if your ok with that kind of stuff. just start kinoing more and do other things and eventually build up to it. try spending more time with them, even if its just you 2 and eventually they will be comfortable enough to do that stuff
 
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