So I just recently started seeing my gf or ex or I dont know what the label is of about one year, we started off as friends first. We broke up then started hanging out having sex sleeping together etc we sleep together like 5 times a week. But the kicker is she puts a label on things just like any girl and puts the friendship label. She says this according to her cause then I can't get on her case for doing certain things and thinks it won't make things difficult basically she figures she wont have to deal with everything that comes with the bf gf relationship territory. But we still act like bf and gf same thing. I dont really say anything. If she has that label I think I can do anything I want, same with her but I dont think she would and I dont think I would unless something bad happens. So should I just ride everything out without the label and wait till later and to see if she brings it up ever? remember we were together for a year and we still tell each other we love each other.
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Friends, GF, ex I have no freakin clue
- Thread starter bdr23
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Let me put my own label: She calls you a friend and has sex with you which means she is your "Fvck Buddy". The reason she calls you a friend falls down to two issues:
a) She does not want others to know she sleeps with you because she does not want to be labled a slvt.
b) She is waiting for someone better to come along and once that happens , he will get the "boyfriend" title and you will get NOTHING!
Don't fall for this girl, she is using you for her own benefits. I suggest you either dump her or ride this one out and continue to fvck her while looking for another girl that deserves that label "girlfriend".
It will end one way or another.
a) She does not want others to know she sleeps with you because she does not want to be labled a slvt.
b) She is waiting for someone better to come along and once that happens , he will get the "boyfriend" title and you will get NOTHING!
Don't fall for this girl, she is using you for her own benefits. I suggest you either dump her or ride this one out and continue to fvck her while looking for another girl that deserves that label "girlfriend".
It will end one way or another.
In this relationship all I see that you love her and she loves herself.remember we were together for a year and we still tell each other we love each other.
From what I can see shes in grad school finishing up her degree in the next semester doesnt want any huge commitment cause she needs to strictly focus on school which is totally understandable and feels that a label would mean a bigger commitment to make me happy which she already somewhat does. and yes I do lover her I tell her that and she tells me the same sometimes she says first and vice or versa
If you believe that you are gullible. LABLES MEAN NOTHING!, ITS JUST LABELS, HER ACTIONS MEAN MUCH MORE. Her interest levels in you are pretty low, she will either get rid of you when she finds someone else or when she finishes her degree, which ever comes first.Originally posted by bdr23
From what I can see shes in grad school finishing up her degree in the next semester doesnt want any huge commitment cause she needs to strictly focus on school which is totally understandable and feels that a label would mean a bigger commitment to make me happy which she already somewhat does. and yes I do lover her I tell her that and she tells me the same sometimes she says first and vice or versa
why would she even bother putting up with sh*t then we were together for a year before you know and I know she well get and is emotionally attached cause she obviously is due to me not trying to talk to her and her talking to me telling me she misses me. If you think about it everyone is always out there looking for someone better when they are not married. I know I do but if noone comes along you stick with whats best. I know I dont want to be tied down at 22 years old and shes 24. you never know how it will end up. Dude shes pretty much straight up with me most of the time she doesn't blab sh*t out of her a*s just for kicks.
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
stop Rationalizing!
1. that schoool thing is overRATED!
if she is IN love with you...you will still be her man..she will still treat you like ur important to her...even though she is busy with school.
and dont say you dont want to be tied down.
why are u upset over this if u dont want to be tied down?
1. that schoool thing is overRATED!
if she is IN love with you...you will still be her man..she will still treat you like ur important to her...even though she is busy with school.
and dont say you dont want to be tied down.
why are u upset over this if u dont want to be tied down?
Kaine
Senior Don Juan
Listen to DJDamage he's usually pretty clued and I agree with him on this from experience.If you believe that you are gullible. LABLES MEAN NOTHING!, ITS JUST LABELS, HER ACTIONS MEAN MUCH MORE. Her interest levels in you are pretty low, she will either get rid of you when she finds someone else or when she finishes her degree, which ever comes first.
Look at her actions, her words with out the actions are empty.
She is sleeping with you because she enjoys the s3x. She is telling you she loves and misses you because she needs and gets recipricol atttention from you. She needs you to validate her self esteem. Women just don't like to feel lonely.
Not having this label in her mind also leaves her options open for someone she feels more attracted to that she can bang without guilt. Just don't be suprised, until she is committed, don't act like you are.
Save yourself a world of hurt
Kaine