friends first

[warrior1]

I know about the friendzone thing and how it will usually not lead to anything else. Well I met this girl like a 1.5 year ago and when i saw her i said to myself shes cute. Then as time went by we were friends but we only got together until we did projects in our group. I still looked at her at that time and said shes preety but not like hot.

Now w/e I see her, I am saying WOW in my head everytime. this is because i rarely see her anymore and a long time ago I would see her twice a week. Do any of you act liek this? Once you don't see them that much anymore you see them as more attractive than before? I am a guy and I wonder if any of you guys or gals ever felt something liek this before since I never saw her as attractive as I did before when I saw her a lot.

I saw her like a friend too and she probably did the same way just like me. But now i just developed some feelings for her. She comes up in my mind a lot now even during the day. Am i infatuated with her?

 

[warrior1]

anyone ever had this experience or am i just weird?

 

[elton]

i kinda wanna know too, my question should you become friends with a girl first to get her attracted towards you?

i personally think it deosnt work and u'll always remain friends.

 

[WC2]

Your attraction is nothing more than what you're formulating in your mind. You aren't neccesarily attracted to her, but more so you are attracted to the fact that you haven't been around her much, and want to be around her.

Sure, go for it, but tread carefully. If you work your mind up too much over this girl, it will only lead to dissapointment.

It's fine to be friends before being attracted. But there has to be a point where you change the road of friendship into a road of seduction. Read about how to get out of the friend zone and so on.

 

[warrior1]

I never showed my interest to her when i met her ealier because i never saw her that way, just except that she is cute. All i wanted with her was friendship and now it seems that I want more now b/c i don't see her that much anymore. I must be weird.

 

[Bronxtal112]

Your attraction is nothing more than what you're formulating in your mind. You aren't neccesarily attracted to her, but more so you are attracted to the fact that you haven't been around her much, and want to be around her.

Sure, go for it, but tread carefully. If you work your mind up too much over this girl, it will only lead to dissapointment.

It's fine to be friends before being attracted. But there has to be a point where you change the road of friendship into a road of seduction. Read about how to get out of the friend zone and so on.

Best advice on the thread.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Women have 2 kinds of friends, Boyfriends and Girlfriends. If you're not fukking her, you're her Girlfriend.

Sorry to throw the cold water of reality on you, but it's Attraction first and THEN friendship (if this is even necessary). You simply cannot negotiate attraction and no amount of "gee aren't I a great friend, let me show you a thousand different reasons you should be into me" wont make up for basic chemical attraction. When a girl is into you, you wont need to plead your case. Move on and SPin More Plates.

 

[Cod3r]

"gee aren't I a great friend, let me show you a thousand different reasons you should be into me"

I've done that as have all of us, dosen't work... they never see how good u r


-Cod3r

 

[djbr]

Sorry to throw the cold water of reality on you, but it's Attraction first and THEN friendship (if this is even necessary). You simply cannot negotiate attraction and no amount of "gee aren't I a great friend, let me show you a thousand different reasons you should be into me" wont make up for basic chemical attraction. When a girl is into you, you wont need to plead your case. Move on and SPin More Plates.

This is the BEST piece of advice you'll ever find on this forum.

Case in point: I used to proceed the old manuever of "friends first" and the whole thing, and ended up getting used to be second best, making excuses for any bad behavior the girl I was at the moment had. Until they just had something better to do and I got kicked.

I read this little piece of gold yesterday and after, two years of sosuave it finally kicked in... yesterday, for the first time, I experienced what RT said. Got a woman and 10 minutes after we started making out we were going straight to another room, to do what we both desired anyway. Dammit, I was just starting and she put her hands on my d1ck! lol.

It's hard to know what is this when you haven't experienced, but focus on it. Sooner or later it will happen, and trust me, you will NOT EVER again believe sh1t like "friends first" again... the chemical attraction ROCKS!

Desireeeee hahahaha