Hey guys, I've been here a while and the first post I had was about a break up, but I've had a friend that is dealing with something he sees as pretty serious.
Let me give you a little background. My buddy met this great girl. She is easily a HB9 or better and to top it off she has a great sense of humor and is an all around great girl.
So her and my friend started dating around 9 months ago. Things have been great for him, not only is she beautiful, but she gets his quirky sense of humor. She took his virginity(he was 20) and he was only the 2nd guy she had been with. Save for her 5 year relationship she got out of a 4-5 months prior to them meeting.
Thats the problem. The girl has a SUPER Ex Boyfriend and no I dont mean super powers. But he is basically the DJ that everyone here strives to be.
My boy got kinda worried because he would notice that she would talk to him every 4-5 days for as long as an hour sometimes. When my boy asked her who it was she said it was just her friend, and when he found out it was a guy. She told him it was her ex-boyfriend.
This kind of got to him. But she told him that she didn't tell him it was her ex boyfriend because she didn't see him as that, because now he is just her friend and nothing more.
Now from my standpoint I guess I can see what she means. When your with someone that long, I guess you do have to be really close, otherwise it wouldn't have worked as long as it did. So some kind of friendship has to be there.
Another thing is, he lives in a completely different country.(slovakia). So I said that was something not to worry about, it's not like shes going to do anything with him if he is 1,000 miles around.
But about a month ago, he stopped in the states and meet my boy and his girl for dinner(my boy asked me come too.) And man, I see why my boy was concerned. The guy is a great looking dude, the tall dark guy all women want and he is f*cking hillarious and cool as hell on top of it. He had us laughing all night and bought all our food and drinks. She told us on the way home that he use to be a real sh*t bag, drug addict and would never do anything like that. Now he is cleaned up and a pretty successful business man in his moms home country.
Another thing he has been noticing is that she gets up at like 11 at night to talk to him sometimes(more so now than before he met up to have dinner with us) since that would be sometime in the morning for him, and the frequency of the calls have become greater.
Now my boy hasn't said anything to her about it to indicate that he is jealous really, but it's starting to get on his nerves and after they met he thinks that she could be missing him alot more than she lets on. Or the fact that he could have turned his life around might have her falling for him again.
Another weird thing is, sometimes he calls when she is not there, my boy answers the phone and he talks to him for like 30 minutes.
I told him not to sweet it, but I dont really know what I would do. He might be a little intimidated after he met him or the fact that she still is attracted to him enough to call him and even meet up with him. She told my boy not to worry about anything though because he was such a goodlooking dude that getting another girlfriend to forget about her shouldn't be a problem.
Should he put his foot down? Or should he just show that he isn't really bothered, From my point of view I think this guy might be winning her back and my boy is just along for the ride. But then again, she told my boy that she would always love her ex, but that she was only in love with him.
I know it was long, but hey. It was a weird situtation. Any help is appreciated.
Let me give you a little background. My buddy met this great girl. She is easily a HB9 or better and to top it off she has a great sense of humor and is an all around great girl.
So her and my friend started dating around 9 months ago. Things have been great for him, not only is she beautiful, but she gets his quirky sense of humor. She took his virginity(he was 20) and he was only the 2nd guy she had been with. Save for her 5 year relationship she got out of a 4-5 months prior to them meeting.
Thats the problem. The girl has a SUPER Ex Boyfriend and no I dont mean super powers. But he is basically the DJ that everyone here strives to be.
My boy got kinda worried because he would notice that she would talk to him every 4-5 days for as long as an hour sometimes. When my boy asked her who it was she said it was just her friend, and when he found out it was a guy. She told him it was her ex-boyfriend.
This kind of got to him. But she told him that she didn't tell him it was her ex boyfriend because she didn't see him as that, because now he is just her friend and nothing more.
Now from my standpoint I guess I can see what she means. When your with someone that long, I guess you do have to be really close, otherwise it wouldn't have worked as long as it did. So some kind of friendship has to be there.
Another thing is, he lives in a completely different country.(slovakia). So I said that was something not to worry about, it's not like shes going to do anything with him if he is 1,000 miles around.
But about a month ago, he stopped in the states and meet my boy and his girl for dinner(my boy asked me come too.) And man, I see why my boy was concerned. The guy is a great looking dude, the tall dark guy all women want and he is f*cking hillarious and cool as hell on top of it. He had us laughing all night and bought all our food and drinks. She told us on the way home that he use to be a real sh*t bag, drug addict and would never do anything like that. Now he is cleaned up and a pretty successful business man in his moms home country.
Another thing he has been noticing is that she gets up at like 11 at night to talk to him sometimes(more so now than before he met up to have dinner with us) since that would be sometime in the morning for him, and the frequency of the calls have become greater.
Now my boy hasn't said anything to her about it to indicate that he is jealous really, but it's starting to get on his nerves and after they met he thinks that she could be missing him alot more than she lets on. Or the fact that he could have turned his life around might have her falling for him again.
Another weird thing is, sometimes he calls when she is not there, my boy answers the phone and he talks to him for like 30 minutes.
I told him not to sweet it, but I dont really know what I would do. He might be a little intimidated after he met him or the fact that she still is attracted to him enough to call him and even meet up with him. She told my boy not to worry about anything though because he was such a goodlooking dude that getting another girlfriend to forget about her shouldn't be a problem.
Should he put his foot down? Or should he just show that he isn't really bothered, From my point of view I think this guy might be winning her back and my boy is just along for the ride. But then again, she told my boy that she would always love her ex, but that she was only in love with him.
I know it was long, but hey. It was a weird situtation. Any help is appreciated.