friends before dating?

[pyros]

So I know this chick who is my best friend's (female too) cousin. We've been getting to know each other in the last few months because she hangs out with my female friend a lot, so many times there is the three of us doing something together (dancing, having a drink...).

This chick has a bf but I'm getting the feeling that she likes me and there is sexual tension between us. One time in a club we got too close...but she stepped back when we were really close. Besides, she likes to talk to me, call me etc and now we're dancing partners too.

Since I am not in a rush, Im 'analysing' her as a potential gf, and I think she is doing the same thing with me. There are many things I like about her and a couple I do not really like, but noone is perfect right?

I'd like to bang her and maybe I'd like to date her as well. She's 25.

Now we are friends and her bf doesnt like her hanging out with me (eventhough her cousin is included). A few times she told me to go to dance the two of us, but then after a few hours she had to cancel it for whatever reason.
Some weeks ago the three of us were dancing in a club and while I made our way to the exit she grabbed my hand, and once we were outside she kept grabbing my hand for one more minute or so, so it seemed like we were a couple...


My perspective is this: if she breaks up with her bf, or wants to cheat on him I'd take her at least for the sex part, but I'm not doing anything cause Im not totally sure if she is into me or if she is unhappy with her bf. Besides, a few months ago they broke up but got back together.
If she wants me she's gonna have to make the first step or give me such a strong IoI that I do the first step.

I have a guy friend of mine that was in an almost identical situation two years ago. Being friends with a girl that had a bf at the time but it was obvious that she liked my buddie. After some time she broke up with her bf and started dating my friend.

Any experiences being friends with a girl before dating/banging her?

 

[RangerMIke]

First off... I would not catogorize you as friends, good acquaintances sure, but not friends. The fact that her BF doesn't want you around is a strong indicator that you are NOT friends. If you really were friends, he wouldn't care anymore then if she was hanging out with a male cousin, unless he's a control freak. Is he? If you don't know, then you are not friends, because she would have told you.

Okay having said that.... I would not recommend pursuing a woman who has an exclusive BF. Too many other unattached women out there. Just go look for them. If she cheats on him with you.... she is NOTHING but a fvck buddy going forward. Because if she did it to him, then she will do it to you.

 

[Stugots26]

I'd have to agree with RangerMike.

1. Met a hot 22yo (I was 33) almost two years ago who was with a plus one who turned out later to be her bf. I dropped my business card for professional reasons, she started texting 3 days later.

2. Her contact was flaky, but she liked me (inviting me for beers, hand-holding, lots of conversation). They'd break up, she'd go out with me a couple times, they'd get back together.

3. Cycle repeated last year. By this time she's telling me that the bf is intimidated by me (he's roughly the same age as me, but entry-level, deadbeat manchild loser). In May 2014 we fvcked, she spent the night, then took me for breakfast. Then she went low contact again. She told him that she slept with me - and he had forbidden her from seeing me - and HE STAYED WITH HER. I finally told her to just get in touch with me when she's single. She added me on Facebook.

4. Took her until December to get in touch. My first response to her text was "Great to hear from you. Are you single?" Her response, "No, but I'd like to see you anyway." I had to tell her 3 TIMES that I was going to wait until she was single.

5. Three weeks later she gets in touch with me again. "Great to hear from you. Are you single?" This time she says she is. She invites me over. Turns out they're still living together but the same day she signed a lease for the next year she found out he's been sleeping around, and now she's trying to sublet. Anyway, we fvck, I leave when she's sleeping. She gets in touch the next day, and I tell her with everything she's got going on to let me know when she's free.

6. She's back in LC, it's been almost 2 weeks since our last exchange. I'm expecting it would be a while before I hear from her again.

Analysis: The "Are you single?" only works in that if you're insistent that she be single, she may not be entirely honest if she wants to see you. This girl sure wasn't. When she gets in touch, I'll just ask when she's free, if she dithers or hesitates about making plans to see me at my place on TWO CONSECUTIVE OCCASIONS, I'll say something like, "You know what I want, and for whatever reason, you're holding back. This just isn't fun for me anymore, and I'm not going to dedicate my time to this when we both know it's less than what I want. I can tell when a woman has high interest and nothing holding her back, and you'll make sure I'll be able to tell that that's you if you ever change your mind. Until then, all the best."

Then I walk and never look back. Already had the pvssy twice, and frankly, though it's awesome to wake up to someone so young, hot, and naked next to you, I'm getting better sex elsewhere right now from someone just as hot, plus she's a rich b1tch so a lot of perqs thrown in (getting flown to Miami in 2 weeks, getting taken on a Vegas birthday weekend bash in 4 weeks involving some 3-way action with strippers).