Friends and casual friends dissing you in front of your girlfriend

[The Decay of Meaning]

This happens to me a lot when I (before took girls I was dating or) now take my girlfriend with me and chat up with friends. I'm really surprised how many people I consider friends or at least casual friends that start to diss me in order to "impress" the girls I am with.

For instance, a fat ****er which I drink beer with said she and him should go to his place and have sex. Now, when she told me we both laughed because he is so ugly it is comical. But when my girlfriend and I went to the bar and I went to the toilet, he said "what, you are fooling with him? He was bringing a girl last week here", which was a plain lie.

Another friend, I invite to her place to drink before we go downtown to party, and he started playfighting me, sometimes almost aggressively. I've done martial arts all my life so I naturally choked him out and kneed him several times, of course not full power, and he became pissed. What's that all about? He never does that normally.

And then another guy at the bar that I chat up with and I like to talk with, suddenly says I have an ugly shirt, my glasses were ugly, my attitude was lame etc. When a girl pulled his beard he said "the girl just pulled my beard", and I responded: "That's because there is nothing else on you she can pull", and he didn't know what to say and laughed, but continued. Then when the music got louder I told him to cut the attitude or risk getting *****slapped, and then he gave me a beer but I refused because I was pissed, and it made me annoyed all night, because what kind of people do **** like that?

Suddenly there is a girl involved (my girlfriend) and then my casual friends starting act like morons and *******s. What's that all about?

 

[2crudedudes]

You have terrible "friends". I would ditch them ASAP.

 

[The Decay of Meaning]

I have. Obviously I don't want to be around such people. But I didn't know they were like this until I've brought in girls I like to sit with these people.

Ever encountered this before?

 

[2crudedudes]

Sadly, stuff like this has happened to me with my own cousin. He wasn't as obvious or aggressive, but I did feel like he was stepping on my turf by trying to charm chicks I was talking to.

To be fair, it all really is fair game until the b1tch is yours, but I expect a bit of courtesy from friends, or at least, family members. Needless to say I don't hang out with him anymore. I know, bros before hos. But that applies to him as well. If he can't respect that rule (as in, check your d1ck urges for the sake of your homeboy, or in my case, cousin), then fvck him.

I've never really faced it with friends, but I'm pretty sure I'd be extremely PISSED if this happened to me. However, that's my lack of confidence showing through. It shows what little control we have over our emotions, and in a way, over our lives. I'm working on myself to be at the point where this shouldn't phase me. Keeping your cool shows confidence, and spinning plates makes this particular girl not even an issue. Until then, I really hope this doesn't happen to me.

 

[SBW]

I would tend to go with the thinking that real friends don't do this.

Whenever it has happened to me, it is invariably the sort of second-line "friend" or acquaintance, usually a hopless case who has little chance themselves.

Rise above it, keep control and don't waste much more time on them.

 

[GetOveIT]

I would tend to go with the thinking that real friends don't do this.

Whenever it has happened to me, it is invariably the sort of second-line "friend" or acquaintance, usually a hopless case who has little chance themselves.

Rise above it, keep control and don't waste much more time on them.

I read it real carefully and i agree that is not real friends.
Just dump them.

 

[sharkbeat]

Not real friends, and they are typical fake badasses. Insecure, thinking that they need to show some tough attitude in front of chicks, feel the need to AMOG people in order to make themselves feel better while the reality is that they are only making a fool out of themselves. Met, seen, and heard of these men all the time.

You don't want to be around these people all the time. If you have to, keep doing what you are doing, kicking their asses, eventually they will back up. But don't let your guard down.

 

[terran2k]

those arent the friends you want to have, I used to have a buddy just like that, always insulting me. they just make themselves feel better by putting you down. I cut him from my life completely.

 

[Megaman XIV]

You have some sorry, jealous ass friends. Ditch them and move on. It will do you and your girlfriend much good.