I was friends with my last ex for a few months before we got together (she was actually dating a guy when I met her). She seemed cool, so I was friends with her.
While she was with her BF, we hung out a few times just as friends. We never did anything that could be construed as cheating, but she mentioned subtle things like "I am sure you have no problem getting girls, you are very good looking." Etc..... I thought she was a very good looking girl, but since she had a bf, she was hands off for me (Im the type of guy that doesn't go for girls in a relationship)
Even after she broke up with her BF, she tried to hook me up with some of her friends (heck, even dated a few guys and told me about her dates)
Then one day, I noticed she was a BIT more flirty with me, and I kept escalating the flirtiness. Over ~month, i'd escalate things a bit more, then she would as well. It was like climbing a ladder. Id always make sure our parting hugs were a little bit longer/tighter etc... Just small steps everytime. Finally, it got to the point where she came right out and asked when I was going to take her on an actual date. About 1-2 weeks later, we were a couple.
Personally, i believe you CAN get out of the FZ, but the girl has to be attracted you to. If I were you, id do something to alter yourself a bit (new haircut, clothes etc..) and pull away for a few weeks (but still stay in contact). Then, slowly start to escalate things with her. If she likes you, she will give you signals.
Good luck bro.
