Friend zone or not?

[Tropik]

There's this girl i've been friends with for awhile now but haven't been interested until recently. We dont hang out anymore but still talk frequently. Before i was interested she used to give me compliments and hint at wanted to hang out but i would always turn her down.

So lately i have developed feelings for her and have tried flirting but it doesn't seem to get anywhere. So i finally got the courage to ask her to hangout but she said she was grounded (which is true) but i was thinking if she really wanted to she would find a way.

Also she texts me whenever shes bored at work or school but i'm not to sure about the intentions. I havent put her on a pedestal (or at least i dont think so). She initiates most our of conversations and i always end them first

I have read pook's post about womanism and she does talk about other guys and how good looking they are (not sure if its to get me jealous or not but its working) but never on how they make her feel emotionally so i'm not sure if i'm in the friend zone or not

Any tips?

 

[Maxtro]

It sounds like you are in the friendzone. If you've been friends with her for a while there is a huge chance that she has already made her impression of you. Getting her to change her mind about you is a near impossible process.

The fact that she texts you when she is bored and that she wants to spend time with you is NOT an indicator that she likes you. She may simply like your company and may think of you as a brother.

The best way to find out if she has any interest in you is for you to start heavily flirting with her. Start touching her more and more. Eventually you want to go for the kiss. If she rejects you there or at an earlier touch you have your answer.

Please do not tell her that you like her or ask if she likes you.

 

[Kevin Feng]

I run into posts like this a lot, and believe me I know what it's like to be in this position.

As soon as I started going out a lot and becoming desensitized to rejection I realized that it didn't matter what the girl thought about me, I had to give it a shot. If I didn't bother escalating or pushing it to the next level, that was MY FAULT. It isn't a girls job in this society to take charge of a sexual encounter. That's a man's territory.

If you're looking to minimize the chance of you getting rejected and building comfort properly, use compliance tests to escalate.

I think you need some training wheels for the time being. I went on a string of about 5 dates where I didn't physically escalate, it was almost like approach anxiety all over again. So I gave myself a time limit, if I hadn't kissed her within an hour of the date, I would just HAVE to by the end. Not that it was the most calibrated or graceful kiss, but it would force me out of my comfort zone and make me less hesitant the next time around.

Bottom line, you miss 100% shots you don't take. If she turns you do, don't be wierd about it, I mean, she'll be flattered if anything.

-Kevin

 

[DiamondCutter30]

Move on she see's you as a friend,you are the safe guy. Move on

 

[DiamondCutter30]

I was in the friend zone area on this one girl. We date broke up she throws out this let's be friends stuff. Anyways i did the things in one of the articles ie. did'nt give a crap when she called answer on MY OWN TIME etc. The key thing i think is "DO NOT MAKE A WOMEN THE FOCILE POINT IN YOUR LIFE end of story. I'm so gald i found this site i was a Beta Male but envoling into the Alpha Male slowly. Be patient my friends "Rome was'nt built in a day"

 

[Tropik]

Thanks for the feedback much appreciated