Friend Talk versus Sexual Talk

[612_Da_Playa]

I just realized something that I do. When I speak to a girl I speak to them as a friend. Stuff like, "How are you" or "What's up" It's like I'm scared of the puss. How did you guys get over the hump? haha do you guys even know what I'm talking about? Where you start talking to the girl in terms of banging and not friend stuff.

 

[Interceptor]

Eye contact, my tone of voice in my inflections, and body language, kino especially.
Subject matter of course matters, but if you are into her, you need to know how to make subject matter flirtatious.

but number one IMO is a gaze into her eyes, and observing her and letting her know that you're observing her and enjoying her.
Throwing in plenty of hints of sexuality and sensuality as well in a confident, and comfortable manner.

Unfortunatley, when we are too indirect, because we don't know how to flirt and engage women in an attraction/sexual manner we want in a sexual manner, it comes off either weird, insecure, or makes the female think you aren't interested in her.

Often, women will not IOI if you're being too 'friendly".

they don't want to make the "msitake" of making the first move and showing her attraction/interest too early and being vulnerable, or being in an awkward position. the majority iof women will NOT approach you, they will expect Men to approach and engage them flirtatiously and sexually.

 

[612_Da_Playa]

Eye contact, my tone of voice in my inflections, and body language, kino especially.
Subject matter of course matters, but if you are into her, you need to know how to make subject matter flirtatious.

but number one IMO is a gaze into her eyes, and observing her and letting her know that you're observing her and enjoying her.
Throwing in plenty of hints of sexuality and sensuality as well in a confident, and comfortable manner.

Unfortunatley, when we are too indirect, because we don't know how to flirt and engage women in an attraction/sexual manner we want in a sexual manner, it comes off either weird, insecure, or makes the female think you aren't interested in her.

Often, women will not IOI if you're being too 'friendly".

they don't want to make the "msitake" of making the first move and showing her attraction/interest too early and being vulnerable, or being in an awkward position. the majority iof women will NOT approach you, they will expect Men to approach and engage them flirtatiously and sexually.

I mean you don't wanna come off as a psycho stalker and what not. But basically you wanna let them know what's up. You want to gaze at her and kino her

 

[bukowski_merit]

there's a little thing used in poetry and music lyrics called wordplay...
i advise anyone to learn what it is, and practice it (either by writing songs or poetry)
i've been doing music and poetry for about 9 years now and my mind is very sharp when it comes to wordplay...

what benefit does it give? it allows me to turn anything anyone says into something else completely even though i'm aware that that was not their intention. i'm considering recording my conversations i have with women so people can here how great this is when done properly.

so you can easily turn something non-sexual into a sexual thing. and if you put the right personality behind it and the right delivery...

delivery is also important... why tell you what to say? just have confidence in what you're saying...

i quickly forget stuff i say because of my drug doing days (hence why i'd like to record it) - but just as an example... today a girl and my were doing some heavy flirting... she thought she was getting the last word in and ended with "how you like them apples?"... without hesitation i said 'i don't like apples...' (then i smiled like a pervert gave a nice dramatic pause while she listened for the punchline) and said ' i like melons'... prolly doesn't read as good as it sounded but i could tell it got to her...

i do this all the time... i turn stuff people are saying in innocent form into sexual stuff...

the trick for me is to not just talk about sex plainly... that's boring...

girl: (talking about having to bite something with her teeth says i finally got it off. i had to bite down on it hard.
me: whoa! i'm not messing with you then. i don't like when girls bite down on it hard.

just that good ol perverted stuff... works for me... none of my famale friends see me as 'just a friend' because i won't let them...

you do need a certain amount of rapport before you say certain stuff... if you're at work, you gotta watch for sexual harassment so keep it minor...

but yeah... hopefully you can get at least one thing from this...

 

[LostAndConfused]

Haha bukowski won't that make you like that surgeon from scrubs who all the girls hate because he makes too much sexual innuendo? (in your end oh, lol).

 

[bukowski_merit]

Haha bukowski won't that make you like that surgeon from scrubs who all the girls hate because he makes too much sexual innuendo? (in your end oh, lol).

i've never seen that show (i pretty much only watch football on sunday's and don't turn on the tv much more)

but to be honest, i can't recall a girl hating me for being like this. even extremely religious girls who shouldn't allow me to talk to them like that. it's seen as playful... humorous... but i believe it keeps me out of the friendzone... it shows that i'm sexual and interested (even if i'm not interested)

i guess i should add that this is just an element of my 'game'. it's not constant; just when i see an opening for it - i take it. but wordplay itself is always present... even in nonsexual form...

 

[DJDamage]

Eye contact, my tone of voice in my inflections, and body language, kino especially.
Subject matter of course matters, but if you are into her, you need to know how to make subject matter flirtatious.

but number one IMO is a gaze into her eyes, and observing her and letting her know that you're observing her and enjoying her.
Throwing in plenty of hints of sexuality and sensuality as well in a confident, and comfortable manner.

Unfortunatley, when we are too indirect, because we don't know how to flirt and engage women in an attraction/sexual manner we want in a sexual manner, it comes off either weird, insecure, or makes the female think you aren't interested in her.

Often, women will not IOI if you're being too 'friendly".

they don't want to make the "msitake" of making the first move and showing her attraction/interest too early and being vulnerable, or being in an awkward position. the majority iof women will NOT approach you, they will expect Men to approach and engage them flirtatiously and sexually.

Its all about the eyes.

Act cool and friendly but not too friendly but when you talk to her and look her in the eyes, you mouth may say something else but your eyes and thoughts should transmit: "I want to fvck you really bad"

Don't hide your sexuality but don't verbalise it. On some level we are all still animals, body language is the key.

 

[Obsidian]

i don't see why everything you talk about has to be sexual in nature. Maybe if you're just trying to secure a hor from a club for a ONS, I guess that would be good. But if you're actually trying to get to know a girl, I don't think you have to sexualize all of your language. Talking to people naturally can be good.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

I mean you don't wanna come off as a psycho stalker and what not. But basically you wanna let them know what's up. You want to gaze at her and kino her

U'll only come off as psycho stalker if u touch her tits or her butt immediately during the interaction(if she's not in a horny sexual state). Otherwise, look at her deeply in her eyes with ur bedroom eyes and also, if u like her chest...look at it but look right back up to her eyes with a smile to let her know u like her sexually, and she'll see where ur coming from(make sure she knows ur doing it). Trust me, u will not get slapped.lol. Girls actually like to be looked at that area but by a confident guy. Only guys who look at her in the manner of being a super horn dog idiot rather than a sexual, confident male...then she may react negatively.