Friend says I'm in fantasy land

[tryst type]

Whenever I talk about my single adventures with girls and suggest going out talking to some especially now with the good weather, one friend in particular (who's in a relationship) balks at it saying it wouldn't happen, girls don't react like that and I'm living a fantasy/movie life in my head.

He's one of many friends who can't grasp the idea that you can just approach any girl/s strike up a fun conversation and escalate. It's just beyond his paradigm.

He thinks my success with girls is merely luck or I'm only finding ugly insecure ones.

What's funny is he carries himself with fake confidence when deep down he has low self esteem which he's even admitted to.

 

[BeDJ]

Any type of success you have in life will attract jealousy.

By telling him about your adventures, he senses your need for validation from him. You gave him reason to believe he is superior to you.The insecurity of you and your friend are just feeding one another.

 

[Warrior74]

Any type of success you have in life will attract jealousy.

By telling him about your adventures, he senses your need for validation from him. You gave him reason to believe he is superior to you.The insecurity of you and your friend are just feeding one another.

This. Let him think whatever the hell he wants to think. When I was in the game, I learned that the more I talked the more problems I made for myself. Jealousy and sabotage. Some men don't want to see you succeed and will actively try to thwart it if they know about it. Don't let them know.

 

[tryst type]

Well what's funny is that this particular friend will make an effort to ask about my adventures, he seems curious as a friend but at the same time I sense he's vicariously living through my experience.

He'll randomly text asking if I have any new pics from girls I want to share etc.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Well what's funny is that this particular friend will make an effort to ask about my adventures, he seems curious as a friend but at the same time I sense he's vicariously living through my experience.

He'll randomly text asking if I have any new pics from girls I want to share etc.

He's likely insanely jealous, but at the same time feels a desperate need to "prove" that it's all some sort of con, because otherwise he'd have to admit that he's "settled' for some fatty.

Kind of like how a lot of people "worship" celebrities. They lick the ground they walk on, but then LOVE to see them go down in flames, telling themselves they knew they were fake all along.

 

[evan12]

If some one tell me that without seeing him with girls I probably will think he is living fantasy .

 

[tryst type]

If some one tell me that without seeing him with girls I probably will think he is living fantasy .

He'd never see me with girls, I barely see him as it is. His life is 98% doing girlfriend stuff and they live together.

 

[The_411]

Whenever I talk about my single adventures with girls and suggest going out talking to some especially now with the good weather, one friend in particular (who's in a relationship) balks at it saying it wouldn't happen, girls don't react like that and I'm living a fantasy/movie life in my head.

He's one of many friends who can't grasp the idea that you can just approach any girl/s strike up a fun conversation and escalate. It's just beyond his paradigm.

He thinks my success with girls is merely luck or I'm only finding ugly insecure ones.

What's funny is he carries himself with fake confidence when deep down he has low self esteem which he's even admitted to.

People don't like it when their belief system is destroyed. It's the tenacity of unreasonable beliefs (name of a book btw). He can't admit to the possibility that life works in the way you describe for fear that he's missed out. At the root there's negative emotion (fear, jealously, etc.) that's prompting his response.

 

[Kailex]

When I was in the game, I learned that the more I talked the more problems I made for myself.

Words of wisdom and it applies to just about everything.

The older I've gotten, the more I've learned to just observe and analyze, rather than overshare.

OP, it doesn't matter what your friend thinks. I don't see why you care, to be honest.

 

[tryst type]

Words of wisdom and it applies to just about everything.

The older I've gotten, the more I've learned to just observe and analyze, rather than overshare.

OP, it doesn't matter what your friend thinks. I don't see why you care, to be honest.

I more so brought it up as a reminder that some guys value their masculinity and self built realm too much of how things "should" be as opposed to expanding their beliefs and creating a different "movie" like life as my friend says.

It's like how you can't help some people who claim they'd like to. A new way of thinking/living just doesn't seem plausible to them and they're content in their self proclaimed lives.

 

[SecondHalf]

I more so brought it up as a reminder that some guys value their masculinity and self built realm too much of how things "should" be as opposed to expanding their beliefs and creating a different "movie" like life as my friend says.

It's like how you can't help some people who claim they'd like to. A new way of thinking/living just doesn't seem plausible to them and they're content in their self proclaimed lives.

I don't think it is a matter of their opinion that things "should" be their way.

They're desperately clinging to their denial and the bubble of excuse that they've built around themselves. Your friend isn't happy, therefore you should not be either.

SH

 

[tryst type]

I noticed that my friends who are all in serious relationships particularly this one talked about, try to brag/show off other parts of their lives to me. Wether it be getting a new job, new apartment, car, goals reached etc.

Odd I'm now really realizing their lives seem like a means to show off. Questions their integrity and real reasons for getting things accomplished.