"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Friend Salting My Game?

gray_fox_9

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OK so heres the deal. The last few times I have been out with this friend of mine he has been using me to talk to girls. He plays it off like he wants to be my wingman but I'll start talking to some HB and then 10 minutes later he will be the one making the moves on her. Its not like it was once or twice but its happened already like 6 or 7 times already. So should I confront him about this or just put it to the side and not worry about trivial things such as this. What would you guys do in my position??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SELF-MASTERY

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This happens . You need to be proactive when your pushing up on ho's. Don't let him control the conversation. I have never understood, the whole wingman thing: I prefer to work solo.
 

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I know what you mean, solo is usually better then having a wingman. Unless the wingman is someone you know, have good chemistry with and completly trust.
 

So Many Ways

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My main wing and I have been good friends for over 10 years. We don't have these issues, we've come to an understanding when it comes to this stuff. If I have game, he backs off, if he has game, I back off, so on and so forth. If you and your wing have that understanding, it will make it much easier for you to meet women, especially if your wing is further along in the game than you.

You and your wing need to have a discussion so you guys have an understanding. One of my wings a few years ago I had to quit rolling with because he would try to snatch up the hos I was pushing up on.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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In my observation, you made 2 mistakes
1 - You let him out-alpha you... and either you didn't play back or you didn't have the skillsets to play back..
2 - You didn't learn from you lesson and brought him out with you again... You don't need friends like that

You can't blame him for taking advantage of your weaknesses. Its very human...

Its you that needs to shape up your game, but don't take this as an insult... take it as a wake up call that will better prepare you to future game...
 

gray_fox_9

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Thanks for the advice guys. And no its not my skills cuz I know I have all the game I need. Maybe he "out-Alphas" me because he is about 6'5" and 235 lbs and is always the loudest one in the room. And I also just figured that him moving in on a girl that I don't even know is not really worth getting mad over and starting an argument over. I guess its solo from here on out. Thanks fellow DJ's!!
 
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