"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Friend Needs HELP!

Daniel1099

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My buddy has been with his girl for 2.5 half years.

it is his first serious relationship.

They have an awesome relationship. nothing is going wrong. They love eachother.

Its just that he is curious of what else is out their. and feels like his relationship has become the "norm"

What do you guys suggest he does?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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amoka

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Is this "friend" you? How old is this "buddy" of yours? Let him tell his girlfriend he needs to do some self improvement and that you need a break.
 

vitor

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How can there be nothing wrong when he wants to go and see what else is out there??

He is bored and wants some strange, but is not willing to let he go because what if she is the best he can get which is a horriable reason to be in a relationship.
 

SabylaBella

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Yeah at 18 that really makes sense he'd like to get out there and play the field. It's a time in most people's life where they want to get out and explore. He might have been losing interest for some time with this girl. He will know in his gut when it's time to end it with her, especially since their relationship sounds pretty healthy.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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