friend needs help, skeptical of this site

[tryst type]

my friend has been in a relationship coming up on 5 years now. they live together with another roommate for college.

recently he found out she had met a boy at a party and they have been talking a lot on AIM. he says on 2 accounts he has walked in and she immediately X's out of aim and acts a bit defensive (senses his suspicion)

he's worried that it might continue growing but more so not sure how he should react/handle it for the time being (if the right attitude can prevent it from going further) i told him about this site but he just blew it off with skepticism.

so any thoughts that i could relate to him would be great and might open his eyes to this community. thanks.

 

[Play the Game]

If he doesn't want help, there's nothing you can do. As the old saying goes you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.

I doubt you can prevent it, just confront her about it and be ready to move on. The worst thing he can do is let her play him, when he knows he's being played.
Is he scared of confronting her, because deep down he's afraid of losing her? If so, you're gonna have a big AFC problem on your hands.

 

[Ken785]

tell him to quit being such a b1tch and confront her...if she gets all defensive...go find another girl and make her see how it feels...i think that relationship is just about over IMO.

 

[tryst type]

he says he's been playing the "guy is no threat" persona.

he'll make little statments like "are you guys dating yet? hurry it up so i can live a single life" or he'll just be like "oh thats cool baby, good for you" at any mention of him.

bad way to go about it?

 

[Play the Game]

Well if he's cool with his gf shacking it up with another guy.... that's his prob. Ask him if you can fvck her too? hahaha

 

[MooseGod]

cuckold!

 

[KontrollerX]

He needs to ditch this wh0re yesterday already.

She's looking to trade him up and doing it right in front of his face.

If thats not massive disrespect I don't know what is.

No chick truly into a guy would ever risk that guy getting mad and leaving her by even entertaining something like this.

 

[cNfny]

Hmm I don't know if not acting threatened is the way to go in this situation. That's more of a random first time encounter with a guy tactic, can someone back me up on this?

I think at this point acting cool, calm, confident, would more so give off a "do whatever you want attitude" which she will. Take a stand if it's in your opinion has crossed the line.

 

[squirrels]

my friend has been in a relationship coming up on 5 years now. they live together with another roommate for college.

recently he found out she had met a boy at a party and they have been talking a lot on AIM. he says on 2 accounts he has walked in and she immediately X's out of aim and acts a bit defensive (senses his suspicion)

he's worried that it might continue growing but more so not sure how he should react/handle it for the time being (if the right attitude can prevent it from going further) i told him about this site but he just blew it off with skepticism.

so any thoughts that i could relate to him would be great and might open his eyes to this community. thanks.

Hmm...5 year relationship, in college, which means the relationship started in high school.

I've seen relationships that started in high school last...it takes a certain kind of maturity, though. Most people don't acquire that kind of attitude in high school.

I wouldn't refer him to this site. But it may be worth suggesting that it's time to start fresh.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

my friend has been in a relationship coming up on 5 years now. they live together with another roommate for college.

recently he found out she had met a boy at a party and they have been talking a lot on AIM. he says on 2 accounts he has walked in and she immediately X's out of aim and acts a bit defensive (senses his suspicion)

he's worried that it might continue growing but more so not sure how he should react/handle it for the time being (if the right attitude can prevent it from going further) i told him about this site but he just blew it off with skepticism.

so any thoughts that i could relate to him would be great and might open his eyes to this community. thanks.

This place only works for guys who want to find solutions that doesn't conform to popular beliefs. Oh yeah, they will also need to put the concepts into practice.