"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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he told me he's done marrying women. Of course he told me that last time too. A bit too naïve for his own good.

Glad i'm here learning and being very picky these days.
I told my dad that we should catch girls like that asleep in the night and super-glue their vulva shut, that would surely drop their value quickly!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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IF they ever suggest marriage counseling, use it as a chance to start stashing CASH in your office desk drawer. They will never believe anything is wrong with THEM, IF it ever comes up. Depending on your income, I drug out the deal for about a year and stashed 20k....
 

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My first tell was when she stopped complaining about something that used to bother her.

There were many tells that I didn't see as our relationship didn't change that much. We were still sexually active right up until the bomb dropped. Wonder if her lover (now husband) knew that?

SH
 

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We were still sexually active right up until the bomb dropped.

Didn't the sex change, though? That was always my take on the very end of relationships, the girl goes from a screaming maniac in bed to something more like a bored hooker.
 

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glass half full said:
So now I am wondering myself, are there any warning signs that can tip us men that a chick might do this crap?
There are always warning signs, some you just don't realize until schitt hits the fan.

When my exwife dropped the "i'm done with this marriage" bomb on me, there were warning signs way before hand that I never picked up on.

Some were:

-Happy hours after work became more frequent and lasted longer.

-She pretty much encouraged me to go hang out with my buddies and spend more time doing my things.

-She started shopping at a mall that she never would go to before. Turns out this mall was closer to the "new" guys house and I imagine it was there meeting spot.

-She would come home from work later and her excuse was she spending more time at the gym.

-Nights out with her girlfriends were more frequent.

-They start drinking more & eating less.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Bible_Belt said:
We were still sexually active right up until the bomb dropped.

Didn't the sex change, though? That was always my take on the very end of relationships, the girl goes from a screaming maniac in bed to something more like a bored hooker.
Nope, exactly the same. Was good, 2 - 3 times per week and she'd always have an O.
This woman was a bit of a freak though. Loved me, but she was a user and needed further help with her career.



SH
 

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Bible_Belt said:
We were still sexually active right up until the bomb dropped.

My last ex/LTR was like this as well. Still had Os/enjoyed it to the last day I saw her.

Truth be told, I was losing interest in her the last few months and she totally picked up on it.
 

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VladPatton said:
If she's a natural born liar, you will not know jack shıt and she'll blind side you in a major, major way when she leaves or cheats on you. You can't notice signs if they're not there.
There are always signs but men refuse to see them or ignore them. It's after when the sh1t goes down that they think back and go "oh yeah, why didn't I see that coming she was doing that."
 

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May_Day said:
There are always signs but men refuse to see them or ignore them. It's after when the sh1t goes down that they think back and go "oh yeah, why didn't I see that coming she was doing that."
May be true, but it's hard to be on bullshıt watch 24/7. It gets tiring. Eventually you gotta eat, sleep and pay some bills.
 

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In my case although things were going very well on the surface, there were a few signs, most of which could have gone either way - one in particular was that her phone was busy but she left it through in the kitchen and dealt with it there when previously she'd have it in the living room with us.

I don't do Facebook, so I never bothered with what she got up to there but she might well have been spending more time on that?

She completely tidied the flat, got our name on the entry and cleared-out her wardrobe. She had talked about changing her style a while before, so I just thought she had finally made her decision and was going to be doing some shopping.

However, the clincher involved a shirt of mine - She liked it a lot (on me and off) and would often wear it when lounging about at home, whenever she washed it, she would "freshen" it up again by putting it on during sex, then have me wear it out with her the next day usually ending-up with it going back on her again during sex when we got home - she loved/was comforted by the smell on it.

Well, one morning I opened the wardrobe and here it was, washed, neatly pressed and put back in with the rest of my shirts. That's when I knew she was disengaging and it couldn't be long. I was right - It was less than a week before I was done with her for good - I'd previously resolved that she'd not get another chance with me, so was ready to bail the moment she started acting-up.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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