“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Friend is wanting me to go after girl?

Zapp Brannigan

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So I have this friend. He's married, only dated women in the 80s, and got married at a young age. He doesn't seem to have a grasp on the way modern women are, and seems blind to the majority of their manipulations/BS. In his mind nothing has changed with dating in the past 30 years.

There was a girl who he swore was in love with me, and she turned out to be a narcissistic attention wh0re who despite having a wedding in a few months, is still out chasing d**k. She asked him about me a couple times when I wasn't with him, and he took that as extreme interest. I knew her from a social group before that, thought she was okay, but this friend pressured me into trying to going after her. It took only a few long conversations and run ins with her to know for certain what she was.

He's into snobbish, high-maintenance, and slutty women. They're the types he's always talking about, and they tend to be the ones he'll try and steer me towards. He's also given some really s**t advice before, that would make anyone look like a giant creepy, borderline stalker, AFC. Until finally telling him to STFU about that girl who he thought loved me, he wouldn't shut up about her. He once told I should find out what neighborhood she lives in and drive around until I see her outside........he was serious too :crackup: With advice it seems sometimes he'll just want me to crash and burn like I don't know s**t about women and have no experience. Needless to say I don't follow his "advice" much, and he doesn't bring it up like he used too.

With a lot of the bad women he's wanted me to go after, I'll say why I don't want anything to do with them, and afterward he'll agree like he thought the same thing the whole time. But it seems he views these bad women as relationship material, pretty much all of the women who I think are actually good (VERY few and far between) he sees as boring.

There's a girl he's currently wanting me to go after. She seems nice, but I don't have much to go by. He said she asks about me when I'm not around, and in his eyes that translates to a girl being in love you. The last time I talked to her she asked me about my friend, so it just seems like her asking about people who aren't around is a way she tries to make conversation. Aside from that during the conversation I didn't sense much interest from her. We occasionally catch each other staring and that's it, it doesn't seem like there's anything there aside from mutual attraction. Also my friend brought up he talked to her in the parking lot and she was being driven by an orbiter. He brought it up like it was cool and no big deal, while I don't think it's a good sign.

This whole year has been something of a transitional period for me. I've been moving past some things that I didn't deal with when I should have, and have been working on improving many areas of my life. Not really looking for a relationship right now, but I'd be willing to make an exception if I met the girl.

It's the way this friend keeps bringing her up that has me wondering. Should I try anything?
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Don't do anything you don't want to do. I got placed in a situation before where my 'friend' forced/blackmailed me to go after a girl. Part of it was my fault cuz I let him somewhat do that. Worst wingman ever though. I even told him if what to say/do if he wants to be a wingman and he did the exact opposite.

These people are real idiots man. Don't make the same mistake I did. Do what you want to do. On your own account. When you personally feel like doing it.
 

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Doesn't sound like much of a "friend".
 

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The poor guy is living through you because his romantic and sexual adventures are dead because of marriage in a young age.

so when you go after the girl he suggested he will feel like he's the reason you get together. That gives him some kind of ego satisfaction.
 

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It's all about what you want. I never let anyone set me up with women. If I'm going to have success or failure it will be all on me.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

Zapp Brannigan

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Thanks for the advice everyone. I'm not going to worry about the girl right now. The only thing that seemed to be there was mutual attraction. Her job has plenty of orbiter co-workers/customers, from what the friend said she was being driven by one, so she could very well be a manipulator, who knows. If a chance presents itself in the future I'll try, but if not that's perfectly fine. Like I mentioned I'm at something of a transitional period, and getting in a relationship is the last of my worries at the moment.

The friend means well, but definitely seems to do what om1xr said of trying to live a life through me, and get some kind of ego boost from "setting" me up with someone. He doesn't understand much game at all. He'll talk about he and his wife arguing, and pretty much he always gives in and kisses her ass with the vague hope of getting laid. He'll sometimes brag and randomly bring up women he got with in the 80s, and he probably had a couple, but not the amount he claims.

He's lucky he grew up and dated when he did. He has no clue of how within the past 10 years a lot of things with women have changed for the worse. How they're more spoiled, narcissistic, and slutty than ever, and how social media has hurt things. He'll look at attention seeking selfies and talk about how "hot" they are, he doesn't notice the orbiters, or why the women are posting the pics.
 

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Brief update. Early this afternoon I had to stop by where the girl works to run an errand. I went in, she acted like I wasn't there, and immediately went over to talk loudly with some orbiter. I think she was trying to make me jealous, but if she's going to do childish attention seeking BS like that she's not right for me. That other girl who my friend swore "loved" me did the same thing a couple times, so I'm pretty sure this girl is just an attention seeker too with no true interest in me.

Either way I'm glad to not have to wonder about chasing her anymore. My friend will likely bring her up until the next girl he spots who "loves" me, if he says anything I'll just think of something to shut him up.
 

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Another update. My friend just came to me smiling, and asked if I had been by where that girl worked lately. It seems she asked him about me again last night, and now he's "sure" she's "in love" with me :crackup: God knows what narcissistic BS is going through her head. It seems she'll ask my friend about me with the expectation he'll tell me, so I'll come by where she works to give her validation. Even in my pre sosuave days I knew better than s**t like that.

Like I said he's lucky he grew up when he did. He wouldn't be able to make it dating in the modern world.
 
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