My friend is 25, he is 5"4 so meeting women for him is challenging since he needs her to be shorter.
About 5 years ago he met one, Mexican girl.
This started a certifiably crazy relationship, she is legitimately insane - hitting him, verbally abusing, being a raging ****, blocking the door if he wants to go out with his friends, throwing cell phones at his head.. etc Oh, and she "can't physically have kids".. (those who laughed just now, you are on the right track)
he breaks up with her. she calls daily, and keeps bugging him. One day there is a knock on his door, he knows its prlly her so he doesnt answer. Then he gets a call from his neighbours saying it's them and they wanted to talk. he opens the door - its her with flowers. So she made them call...
He takes her back, and realtionship is just as stupid as ever, she will hit him when they drive together, I've seen him almost crash his car a few times because of this. She's been to mental hospital a time or two at this point.
So I ask him "when the hell will you break up?"
and he replies "uhh..now is not a good time, but soon"
-"why not now?
'she is pregnant"
Boom. he says they are going to a doc for an abortion in 3 weeks. Red flags for me everywhere like a parade
"Dude, make sure you go LIKE TOMORROW. Go and do this now!"
they miss one appointment.. two.. and oops its too late to abort, how convenient!
so now he has a son.. they stay together for 2 years, and eventually after he buys a place, fixes and paints everything, moves furniture, they break up.
His kid is almost 3 now, and my friend has been going out with me but he has trouble getting girls that are short and cool. He bangs one or two but he is looking for more.
I keep reminding him of how much his life sucked with her, but he feels like "they could have a family life, and be like a family unit and happy"
so today he took it to an extra lame level and started pouting all over his facebook.
Kid is smart, has a business that he runs and a decent job. Owns two properties. He is just lonely, and he saw his ex with his kid and some new guy at his old place and it hit him hard... that pushed it over the edge.
I believe he is looking for "love" because his mom left him and his dad is a prick. But I don't think being a "family" with the ex will bring it.
How can I help my friend?
About 5 years ago he met one, Mexican girl.
This started a certifiably crazy relationship, she is legitimately insane - hitting him, verbally abusing, being a raging ****, blocking the door if he wants to go out with his friends, throwing cell phones at his head.. etc Oh, and she "can't physically have kids".. (those who laughed just now, you are on the right track)
he breaks up with her. she calls daily, and keeps bugging him. One day there is a knock on his door, he knows its prlly her so he doesnt answer. Then he gets a call from his neighbours saying it's them and they wanted to talk. he opens the door - its her with flowers. So she made them call...
He takes her back, and realtionship is just as stupid as ever, she will hit him when they drive together, I've seen him almost crash his car a few times because of this. She's been to mental hospital a time or two at this point.
So I ask him "when the hell will you break up?"
and he replies "uhh..now is not a good time, but soon"
-"why not now?
'she is pregnant"
Boom. he says they are going to a doc for an abortion in 3 weeks. Red flags for me everywhere like a parade
"Dude, make sure you go LIKE TOMORROW. Go and do this now!"
they miss one appointment.. two.. and oops its too late to abort, how convenient!
so now he has a son.. they stay together for 2 years, and eventually after he buys a place, fixes and paints everything, moves furniture, they break up.
His kid is almost 3 now, and my friend has been going out with me but he has trouble getting girls that are short and cool. He bangs one or two but he is looking for more.
I keep reminding him of how much his life sucked with her, but he feels like "they could have a family life, and be like a family unit and happy"
so today he took it to an extra lame level and started pouting all over his facebook.
Kid is smart, has a business that he runs and a decent job. Owns two properties. He is just lonely, and he saw his ex with his kid and some new guy at his old place and it hit him hard... that pushed it over the edge.
I believe he is looking for "love" because his mom left him and his dad is a prick. But I don't think being a "family" with the ex will bring it.
How can I help my friend?
