"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Friend into a F#$% Buddy..?

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Recently I had a problem with my girlfriend who wanted to go see some friends out of town. Some of them were FB's who she claimed they were just good friends before it happend. Anyways that problem is over but, most people were telling me that they couldn't believe someone could get out of the friend zone and then become FB. I myself found this a dilema I was pondering over...

So last night I was thinking about when I was in high school first learning about the DJ way. I believe I was able to turn a potential friend into a FB.
Here is my story:

Back in high school when I was smoking weed I met this new girl in school. She was visiting her family up here and aiming to get her diploma here. Me just learning my DJ skills, I decided to approach this HB and try to make something of it. Turns out she also smoked weed to and doesn't know where to get it up here. So, I said If you need anything let me know we can hang out and smoke. The first week or two we would hang out and get high about 3 times out of the week. Me just learning about how to be a DJ. I started to use a little bit of kino on here and some other tools found in the DJ Bible. Turns out she has a boyfriend in another state. I figured damn, but, I thought. Why not just keep using my DJ skills and see if anything happens. For about the first two - 2 1/2 months I known this girl we hung out like everyday. Just chillin together and smoking weed. I always been C&F with her, using strong eye contact, bringing up topics about sex. Just using some knowledge I learned from this site. Now, again we became pretty good friends and would hang out every day almost for 2 1/2 months. Then, out of nowhere. She sends me a text message telling me I'm sexy and wants to spend some one on one time with me. I figured she was just screwing with me but, I'd thought I would play along with her and see what happens. Anyways things started escalating and we ended up having sex a few times. But, we just kept it between us because she had a boyfriend in another state. So, we were like friends with benefits but kept it between us. Later on she moved away and still keeps in touch with me just to talk about things.

After this being said what do you guys think about this?

I known this girl for almost 3 months before we even fooled around and the fact we would hang out pretty much everyday... Was there just some attraction on a physical level? Did my DJ tools play a factor in this? Was she just horny and wanted some d!ck since she hasnt seen her boyfriend for awhile? Did I just get lucky and met a hor?....Anyone have a similar experience or know how to turn a friend into a f.uck buddy?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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No, it wasn't your DJ skills, your C&F, or any of that. It was your weed. Some guys have money and pay for it. Some guys give girls rides and act like their puppy. Some girls need a supplier, and that was you in this one. I know plenty of chicks who hang out and put out with guys who have drugs.

She was probably horny, but girls can get the c0ck anywhere, so might as well get as much for giving it up. So she acts like she's doing you a favor by having sex, but in reality, you gave her sex and weed.

So, in summary, she was using you for your weed. I hate be the messenger here. You were trading supplies. Basic economics.
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
So, in summary, she was using you for your weed. I hate be the messenger here. You were trading supplies. Basic economics.
Double coincidence of wants!

However, I don't think she was just using you for weed. Although the weed played a part, she was also using you for primarily using you for companionship and later, penis.

PM me if you want to know how to turn friends (as long as you haven't been rejected into the "friend zone") into FWB or even a relationship. You're welcome to PM me too, Gangster.
 

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Serialized3 said:
PM me if you want to know how to turn friends (as long as you haven't been rejected into the "friend zone") into FWB or even a relationship. You're welcome to PM me too, Gangster.
err...how can you be a friend, without being in the friend zone?
 

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Soyoushave said:
err...how can you be a friend, without being in the friend zone?
Simple:

I define the "friendzone" as the position a guy has found himself in as a result of him expressing his interest or feelings for a girl and her rejecting him (ex: "Oh, you like me? I never knew you felt that way about me, but I see you more like a big brother, I think we should just be friends")

That is much different than being a friend, which is just when you spend time with a girl, get to know her as a person, without pursuing her as a romantic or sexual partner. You know ... treating her like a male friend.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Serialized3 said:
Simple:

I define the "friendzone" as the position a guy has found himself in as a result of him expressing his interest or feelings for a girl and her rejecting him (ex: "Oh, you like me? I never knew you felt that way about me, but I see you more like a big brother, I think we should just be friends")

That is much different than being a friend, which is just when you spend time with a girl, get to know her as a person, without pursuing her as a romantic or sexual partner. You know ... treating her like a male friend.

You can be friendzoned way before you make a move, it's not like right when you made a move is when she puts you in the friendzone.

that being said, let's see what you got Serialized =P
 

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Kev07 said:
You can be friendzoned way before you make a move, it's not like right when you made a move is when she puts you in the friendzone.
Sounds like subscribe to the ladder theory, where girls catergorize what guys they might sleep with or will never sleep with right away. In my experience, the system is not nearly as rigid as many people think.

Now, I can tell you that I've hooked up with quite a few friends of mine that said "You're not the kind of guy I usually go for, but you're just so cool!" or something along those lines. ("You have such an awesome personality")


Kev07 said:
that being said, let's see what you got Serialized =P
What do I got? Let's see...

~75% of my female friends are sexually attracted to me.

Several lays of female friends, including girls with boyfriends, or girls that are "out of my league".

Like I said, if you guys are interested in this idea, PM me. I'm not going to post this stuff all over the boards.
 

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Serialized3 said:
Sounds like subscribe to the ladder theory, where girls catergorize what guys they might sleep with or will never sleep with right away. In my experience, the system is not nearly as rigid as many people think.

Now, I can tell you that I've hooked up with quite a few friends of mine that said "You're not the kind of guy I usually go for, but you're just so cool!" or something along those lines. ("You have such an awesome personality")
I would venture to say that you were never in the friendzone, but PM is sent.
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
No, it wasn't your DJ skills, your C&F, or any of that. It was your weed. Some guys have money and pay for it. Some guys give girls rides and act like their puppy. Some girls need a supplier, and that was you in this one. I know plenty of chicks who hang out and put out with guys who have drugs.

She was probably horny, but girls can get the c0ck anywhere, so might as well get as much for giving it up. So she acts like she's doing you a favor by having sex, but in reality, you gave her sex and weed.

So, in summary, she was using you for your weed. I hate be the messenger here. You were trading supplies. Basic economics.
Actually, she paid for the weed all the time and smoked me out. She just wanted me to go to my supplier so she can get it. I did pay for it sometimes myself but 80-100% of the time she paid for it.
 

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Serialized3 said:
That is much different than being a friend, which is just when you spend time with a girl, get to know her as a person, without pursuing her as a romantic or sexual partner. You know ... treating her like a male friend.
That is pretty much how our relationship went until we fooled around.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Kev07 said:
Sounds like a good woman, ****ing marry her now.:up:
I know I'm evil for thinking this, but I picture Beavis and Butthead everytime he posts stuff about his love of weed. Yes, sounds like quality people mating.
 
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