"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Friend has girlfriend, we don't hang out anymore

spaceman2001

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What's up with this? Ever since my friend started dating his girlfriend, I never see him anymore. We were best friends, and I knew him for over 10 years. He hasn't called once this year, and we live two blocks from each other! What an @$$hole.

I understand he may be busy, but to not even call ONCE? Have you guys ever had friends who do this?? I don't understand.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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khash

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your " best" friend was not really a friend. PERIOD

when friends stop hanging out together just because they get girlfriend it means : He was hanging out with you cuz he had no girl and had nothing to better to do.

poor him tho, he will get dumped by his girlfriend if he revolved his life around her, and not make her revolve around his.
 

spaceman2001

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They hang out every single night. My other friends say they don't even see him anymore either.
 

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I fail to see why this is an issue. The dude can do whatever he pleases man. If he doesn't feel like talking and hanging out with you, that's his choice. It doesn't make him an a-hole. Seriously man, you shouldn't get all bent out of shape just because a friend doesn't call you for a year. Cause when you do, I begin to question whether you have anything or anybody else to occupy your time with. Plus it's beginning to sound as if you expect the two of you to have some sort of 'commitment' to keep in touch with each other.

On the other hand, if he ever did blow you off or let you down when you needed his help, then that's something else altogether. But if you just lost contact with him, it's no big deal.
 

BxPrince24

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That's LIFE. Get over it. F*ck him....


Same sh*t happened to me before and u kno what, u gotta learn to just not give a f*ck. My so called "best friend" and I have been buds for 8 years and last year he decides to be a **** n stop hangin out with the group when he got his girlfriend. He started hangin out with his drinkin buddies n such. But you know what? Who fackin cares? Live your life... Friends are temporary.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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KarmaSutra

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A chronic case of One-itis.

Your boy is suffering from the disease of One-itis. You should do him a favor and shoot him this way.

Friends help friends in need.
 

wheelin&dealin

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spaceman2001 said:
What's up with this? Ever since my friend started dating his girlfriend, I never see him anymore. We were best friends, and I knew him for over 10 years. He hasn't called once this year, and we live two blocks from each other! What an @$$hole.

I understand he may be busy, but to not even call ONCE? Have you guys ever had friends who do this?? I don't understand.
It means the guys a dork and he doesn't know how to interact with the opposite sex. He doesn't have a life of his own that's why he has to hang out with his girlfriend all the time.
 

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ya

I have a friend thats pretty much the same way. When i met him he was happy with his GF but man, it was his life. If she wasnt with him, talking to him, or kissing him, oooor even talking/dancing/skating with someone other than him, he would get so depressed that it made for a crappy time hanging out with him. Finally she broke up with him in a brutal sorta matter but whatever. (she cheated on him and was a lying B****) so he took about a month to recover (1st girlfriend so ya..) and finally wasnt all that bad for a while.

Now more present, school ended and work began. I havent seen him much because of it but now he did just get a new girl thats a friend of his friends cousin. Cute, bout a HB6ish.
Back to square one. He now is all about her. 100% AFC. he has some romantic ideas and is thoutfull, but she is his life now. Oh well, you just gota put up with it and move on. Ill get a call when she gets tired of his Pedistal someday.
 

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guys that are AFC's and finally get a girlfriend go into their own world. My buddy did the same thing. I dont blame him, he was 21 yrs old and never had a g/f. Now that they broke up we're best friends again. I dont care if he's an AFC, he's a childhood friend.

If u 2 are really good friends, at least try to make contact. let him know you're still around. He'll prolly break up w/ her sooner or later, just be around when it does.
 

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Wiesman44 said:
guys that are AFC's and finally get a girlfriend go into their own world. My buddy did the same thing. I dont blame him, he was 21 yrs old and never had a g/f. Now that they broke up we're best friends again. I dont care if he's an AFC, he's a childhood friend.

If u 2 are really good friends, at least try to make contact. let him know you're still around. He'll prolly break up w/ her sooner or later, just be around when it does.
Exactly what happened to my friend.... Moved in with the first girl he fvcked. Freaking moron I tell you. I have hung out with him like twice in several years and both have been with his gf being there. Man she is so ugly too.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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anonymousguy

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Wiesman44 said:
If u 2 are really good friends, at least try to make contact. let him know you're still around. He'll prolly break up w/ her sooner or later, just be around when it does.
Wiesman is right. Did you ever contact him? Maybe he just thinks the same. Why didn't you give your best friend a notice? You only live two blocks away.
But on the other hand, this is life, relationships come and relationships go away. It's part of nature. Just handle the situation with professionalism.
 

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Its sad how a guy can drop everything for just one girl..
Even though I was AFC a lot in the past and hold a little bit still (im a chrsitian so i have limits i follow a bit) I still put women in their place. Shure they can tug at the emotional part of me for a bit, but after a few days and a few nice drive or something that I enjoy doing. (Which is a lot. If it has an engine I probably do it lol) I get over it wether good or bad you know. I try to always get me and a friend of mine to join me while i meet up with this girl to make sure Im not focused completely on her, make her earn my interest a bit. My friend i mentioned earlier says high or whatnot but its alll about his girl. A sad site it is for sure. The funny part is he needs a woman soo much that he almost treats his buddies like one when he is single.. So we like to put him in his place so to speak quite often lol.
 

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Get more friends. People get busy sometimes - don't take it personal.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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