"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Weaselpuke

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I work with this woman who got married about 6 months ago, the ladies at work seem to think that see feels that she made a mistake but will never admit it? Not sure, can't say I know her that well. I guess her husband lost his job a couple months after they married and is still without a job. She comes in to work telling me how when it snowed he didn't even go out to clean her car off ( I guess he makes her park her car outside, he parks his cars inside), but instead decided to stay in bed. I guess stuff this goes on all the time.

I'm not sure what to tell her, its really none of my business. Not sure if she is reaching out for advice. I figured that she would eventually figure it out and get tired of the crap and either fix it or leave the dude.

I beileve the best thing to do is just stay netural ? What do you think ?

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Not sure what I think... but I LOVE your screen name!
 
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dietzcoi

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Stay neutral. You cannot convince AFCs of EITHER sex not to be doormats.

Stay out of it.

Dietzcoi
 
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You should do more than stay neutral. You should stay away from this mess.... far, far, FAR away. This scenario plays out all the time. Guys don't change so dramatically in 6 months, which means she married this jerk by her own free will and choice. She's not some kind of victim here. Stay completely out of it and don't let yourself get taken advantage of, which is what will happen if you don't stay out of it.
 
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I'm going to sound like an echo and I will say the same thing - stay out of it and don't end up being "the other guy" - I was in exactly the same situation (in my evaluation of someone else's relationship) but I said nothing. She made the decision on who she wanted, and it was none of my business!

Besides, worry about yourself and getting booty! ;)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I agree with all my Juan - bro's here ... stay away.

When ever I find myself in a situation like this, I always ask myself
what would my old AFC self do.......

Then I do the opposite.

It works everytime...... try it
 
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RED FLAG ALERT! RED FLAG ALERT!

Stay away from this woman! If she's whining after only 6 months of marriage then she needs a marriage counclor and not you. She'll sucker you into being an emotional tampon listening to her tales of misery, then her husband will come kick you butt for "stealing his wife".

Run for the hills Darling! And don't look back!
 
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Originally posted by caribguy


When ever I find myself in a situation like this, I always ask myself
what would my old AFC self do.......

Then I do the opposite.
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This advice is priceless!!!
 
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