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i have read all about the dreaded friend zone, but in my current situation and many peoples they need ways to guard themselves from entering

what are good comebacks to say do a girl that says whats up friend? or hey pal? or im glad were such good buddies? or crap like that should i call them pal back? nd act like id rather be their friend...(this girl has been calling me friend and she used to like me) i know everyone says next her but im not a quitter

what are ways to come back to girls who say hey friend
 

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Originally posted by theNEWDJ
i have read all about the dreaded friend zone, but in my current situation and many peoples they need ways to guard themselves from entering

what are good comebacks to say do a girl that says whats up friend? or hey pal? or im glad were such good buddies? or crap like that should i call them pal back? nd act like id rather be their friend...(this girl has been calling me friend and she used to like me) i know everyone says next her but im not a quitter

what are ways to come back to girls who say hey friend
Oh, so were only freinds now huh..........I see how it is.....One day ya love me one day ya dont which is it baby? (****y funny remark after if needed)
 

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this girl has been calling me friend and she used to like me
This my friend is your fault dude. This type of situation has to, HAS TO be avoided with the first few time you talk and flirt with here.:yes:

So she used to like you...and now you are a friend. Most of the time this is a test women throw at you to see how you will handle it.
But you have let the rope go slack, most likely because you became either too boring, too predicatble or too needy.
Just relax, take things slow and never be afriad to say '' yes your ass looks fat in those pants'':rolleyes:

Anyway, ''the friend'' type of relationship isnt as bad as people make out to be.
I had one or too friends, or ''sex buddies'' and it was great.
If she just sees you as one of her ''girl friends'' what I usuallly say is:

''You know what this is great, if anything else you'd make a great friend'';)

Thats giving you the power now and you might be surprised the reaction you will get.

Or I might say:

''Yeah youre a good friend...and you are going to introduce me to all your good looking friends as well'':cool:

And remember, dont listen to what she is saying, pay more attentio to her tone of voice and body language to see what she is really saying.

:rockon:
 

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When I find that I'm into the friend zone with a girl I start to like, I usually avoid her for a bit. This gets her annoyed/frustrated/concerned over this. Don't be rude, just give a cold shoulder & don't talk to her as much. Do this until it seems she has no more interest in persuing your friendship anymore.

After time, then start to talking to her again, whipping out all the DJ moves. This may seem strange to the both of yas at first, but it gives you a fresh start on things
 

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okk thanks guys but what about a girl that likes u should u act like shes just a friend to play hard to get n gain more attraction?

like this one young chick knew i would never go out with her and i would call her buddy and stuff and she became obsessed with me
 

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i was in a similar situation before... do this: look at them up and down (like your mugging them) with a smirk on your face and respond with "who said we're friends?" (being as ****y and funny as possible) then start laughing... then she'll probably initiate kino by hitting you
 

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Originally posted by theNEWDJ
okk thanks guys but what about a girl that likes u should u act like shes just a friend to play hard to get n gain more attraction?
If you wish to play hard to get, comfront her about it in a C+F way

Just keep acting the way you did around her before you knew, this will gain her interest because it gets her concerned
 

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And you spelt all bar two words of your sentence wrong including friends.

Is being called a friend always a bad thing? I mean if she likes you, you like her and you both know it, you've gone out maybe once or maybe you are about to go out... She says to her frined (who doesn't know you) I'm going out with ... She can't say my bf yet, coz you aren't at that stage, so what does she say besides a friend?
 
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