Today I was at the mall by myself and noticed 2 girls and caught eyes with the hotter one, but I know I probably should hit on the uglier one so she wouldn't ****block, so I went up to her and said Hi, whats your name? she says "I'm Michelle. This is Crystal." after that I froze up because I felt like my mind was going nuts... I really wanted to talk to Crystal, the hotter one, after her friend introduced me to her but then I wanted to talk to the uglier one first originally so I could make her friend think like "why isn't this guy hitting on me and hitting on my uglier friend. So I need some advice, I can do the approach and say what's up and stuff but after that in my mind I have all kinds of thoughts about what I should say that's ****y & funny, witty or sarcastic... I'm trying to look at what they are wearing but I don't want to really give compliments so soon. Do you always change what you talk about in every approach or do you have some kind of script that you remember that you usually talk about when you do your approaches? I kinda look at it in steps... First, eye contact, approach, introduction, build rapport, and CLOSE. I feel like I'm almost there... Baby steps at a time.. I can approach them now and get the introduction but the quickly building rapport is where I'm having trouble at because I can't really think fast, and I feel like I stall sometimes, trying to think of something witty to say and I just ruin my chances.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Freezed up after approach
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