"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Lion

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Just split with ex-gf, time to move on. Set up a drink with a buddy tomorrow.
See what I can make with life, I'm applying for new jobs, looking for a new car, thinking of moving out...

It's going to be a real challenge, I still work for her dad.

I really need to make more friends, been reliant on my ex-gfs mutual friend groups for nearly 3 years now. No contact, no going back. Wish me luck :rockon:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ease

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whats your story with the ex?
 

Lion

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She couldn't continue with the relationship because:
I said some things about her person and how we are different - I didn't express this in the most effective way, (note: I really need to work on my speech and be able to tell people things without offending them)
She wants commitment, marriage - I say we are young, she says she feels old and ready to settle down. She is definitely someone I see myself with for the rest of my life but I need to figure out if I want to settle down.
 

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Lion said:
She couldn't continue with the relationship because:
I said some things about her person and how we are different - I didn't express this in the most effective way, (note: I really need to work on my speech and be able to tell people things without offending them)
She wants commitment, marriage - I say we are young, she says she feels old and ready to settle down. She is definitely someone I see myself with for the rest of my life but I need to figure out if I want to settle down.
Big mistake bro. If you can see yourself with her for the rest of your life. I'm talking about if you really like this girl a whole lot and she feels the same way, man I'd kill to be in that situation again.

Most of the guys here in sosuave and plainly everywhere for that matter, are looking for what you got. Sounds to me like you're going to find out what I'm talking about the hard way. That's alright, I'm sure then you'll really man up and start to be a DJ.

If you have a good girl who's all that and really cares for you, no need to be hanging out with chicks who want no part of you.

Truth is, no matter how DJ you are, it's seldom that you will find a good looking girl who will actually care for you without all the sh*t test and the other bullsh*t. I'm talking about, knowing the good things about you, and the bad things about you, and still deeply without any bullsh*t , loves you. Most women settle down for a lot of reasons and caring and actually liking the guy is the last on their list. They just need a man. They don't need exactly you, just a man, or a guy who looks like a man.

Vagrant!~
 

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vagrant said:
Big mistake bro. If you can see yourself with her for the rest of your life. I'm talking about if you really like this girl a whole lot and she feels the same way, man I'd kill to be in that situation again.

Most of the guys here in sosuave and plainly everywhere for that matter, are looking for what you got. Sounds to me like you're going to find out what I'm talking about the hard way. That's alright, I'm sure then you'll really man up and start to be a DJ.

If you have a good girl who's all that and really cares for you, no need to be hanging out with chicks who want no part of you.

Truth is, no matter how DJ you are, it's seldom that you will find a good looking girl who will actually care for you without all the sh*t test and the other bullsh*t. I'm talking about, knowing the good things about you, and the bad things about you, and still deeply without any bullsh*t , loves you. Most women settle down for a lot of reasons and caring and actually liking the guy is the last on their list. They just need a man. They don't need exactly you, just a man, or a guy who looks like a man.

Vagrant!~
i completley agree...games are a waste of time..dating and random *****es are a waste a time...see if you got what you nead to eat at the house...it prepares itself for meal time...and all you have to do is come home from work at the end of the day to get it...you gona shop at the store for something like it...get it home..cook it and then find out its what you already had waiting hot on the stove for you...your goddamn fool.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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