FREE Q&A With Speer =----> August Edition

[Speer Method]

Hey Guys,

I have set up this FREE Q&A so I can help you excel your game and move past your sticking points. Normally I will respond within 24 to 48 Hours. Please be patient.

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3. Note that ALL questions will be answered in the order they were received.

4. I will be answering questions from today (Aug. 06th) to Friday (Aug.13th)

Remember that no question is a bad or dumb question. I am here to help and give back to the community that has given me so much.

So, without further delay. Fire away!

 

[BongDuy]

What are some of your favorite openings for a cold approach? What about something for the beach?

 

[Speer Method]

What are some of your favorite openings for a cold approach? What about something for the beach?

This all depends on the type of approach type you choose.
Perhaps its better if I break down the approach types I use.

1. Direct - showing direct interest by saying "Your are freaking adorable"
^---the importance in direct is your body language, tone, and eye contact are all congruent otherwise you will be try hard and in congruent.

2. Indirect - Opinion opener, indirect body language. My favorite opener is my Pregnant Girl Smoking - "Do you think its ok for a girl to smoke a cig if she just found out she is pregnant?"

3. Situational - Based on your surroundings and on the girl.

4. Natural - This is where you say whatever you want and plow. Going natural is great although the catch is not to be to outcome dependent because you will seem needy.

Hope this helps

 

[Furyguy]

Have any surefire lines to bring up the topic of sex in a fluid, non "creepy" way?

 

[Accension]

Speer how do I deal with competition?
I PMed you but i'll say it again here.

General question, hell yeah.
Let's get more specific.

How do I deal with AMOGs and guys trying to game the same girl in front of me?

Infact, I suck at socialising with guys.
All my friends are girls.
I've never seen the point of having 'guy friends', I have a few but ultimately I prefer a womans company even if I'm not tuning her.

Maybe this has made me a bit feminine and inept at dealing with other guys.

 

[Alle_Gory]

Speer, it's so great you're so charitable to us peasants. For all of those who don't know, to talk to the great Speer costs a small fortune.

 

[scrouds]

Yes thank you for gracing us with yourself. I do have a burning question for your almighty holiness.

How much wood could a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood?

 

[Evzone]

What advice do you have for someone working on their day game? I know that is a pretty broad question, but from my experience as a recent graduate, most of my female acquaintances have been through mutual friends in college or from the nightlife.

 

[Accension]

What advice do you have for someone working on their day game? I know that is a pretty broad question, but from my experience as a recent graduate, most of my female acquaintances have been through mutual friends in college or from the nightlife.

Evilzone?

 

[Evzone]

Evilzone?

No, it's Greek. This: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Evzones

 

[Speer Method]

Have any surefire lines to bring up the topic of sex in a fluid, non "creepy" way?

You can start with something my good friend Adam showed me.

Here is my version called the "Sexual Tension Test":

1. Tell the girl "We are going to play a game...You stare into my eyes and I will stare into yours. The first one that laughs loses. ok go! No touching though. Dont get any funny ideas."

2. Once you guys are staring into each others eyes tell her
"Now think sexual thoughts" This will add great sexual tension

3. Do this until either she breaks eye contact or laughs. If she doesn't laugh keep moving forward like you are going to kiss her. If she still doesn't break kiss her.

If she laughs call her a "loser" in a funny calibrated way, and escalate normally.

Good Luck

 

[Speer Method]

Speer how do I deal with competition?
I PMed you but i'll say it again here.

General question, hell yeah.
Let's get more specific.

How do I deal with AMOGs and guys trying to game the same girl in front of me?

Infact, I suck at socialising with guys.
All my friends are girls.
I've never seen the point of having 'guy friends', I have a few but ultimately I prefer a womans company even if I'm not tuning her.

Maybe this has made me a bit feminine and inept at dealing with other guys.

Here is one of our latest videos which towards the middle talks about your specific problem AMOGing.

http://www.youtube.com/speermethod

Just press play when you are there. Dont forget to subscribe and leave feedback.

Thanks and hope this helps

 

[Accension]

Here is one of our latest videos which towards the middle talks about your specific problem AMOGing.

http://www.youtube.com/speermethod

Just press play when you are there. Dont forget to subscribe and leave feedback.

Thanks and hope this helps

Dude your style of game is very compatible with mine.
Awesome to watch, respect just raised.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

Where are the best places to go to meet women?
Where are the worst?

 

[Speer Method]

Where are the best places to go to meet women?
Where are the worst?

Personally I dont think there is a "best" or "worst" place to meet women. This all depends on you and when you like to go out.

Here is some of the differences between day game and night game locations...

DAY GAME (Street/Mall/Stores/Restaurants)
Negative Notes:
Less targets, which means you have take the opportunity's when they are there.
People are usually out to do something
No Vibe (Thus it has to be built)
ect..

Positive Notes:
Less of a Bytch Shield
Easier to bounce
Usually target will be alone or with minimal company
Its not going to be super loud (like in a club)
ect..

NIGHT GAME (Clubs/Bars/Restaurants/Lounges)
Negative Notes:
Larger Sets
Bytch Shields
More AMOGs
Loud Venues (clubs/bars)
Crowded
ect..

Positive Notes:
More Sets locally
Targets are in better state (alcohol, going out to have fun, ect..)
Vibe is automatic due to music and surroundings
Easier to sexualize the frame
Easier to Kino with out isolating
Normally no agenda past having a good time in the specific venue
ect..

Hopefully this will help you choose the right venues for your style of game.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

Personally I dont think there is a "best" or "worst" place to meet women. This all depends on you and when you like to go out.

Here is some of the differences between day game and night game locations...

DAY GAME (Street/Mall/Stores/Restaurants)
Negative Notes:
Less targets, which means you have take the opportunity's when they are there.
People are usually out to do something
No Vibe (Thus it has to be built)
ect..

Positive Notes:
Less of a Bytch Shield
Easier to bounce
Usually target will be alone or with minimal company
Its not going to be super loud (like in a club)
ect..

NIGHT GAME (Clubs/Bars/Restaurants/Lounges)
Negative Notes:
Larger Sets
Bytch Shields
More AMOGs
Loud Venues (clubs/bars)
Crowded
ect..

Positive Notes:
More Sets locally
Targets are in better state (alcohol, going out to have fun, ect..)
Vibe is automatic due to music and surroundings
Easier to sexualize the frame
Easier to Kino with out isolating
Normally no agenda past having a good time in the specific venue
ect..

Hopefully this will help you choose the right venues for your style of game.

Yeah I see how it's easier to get personal and sexual during the nighttime. It's something about the night that makes people more open. Very good advice, but I have to disagree with you on one point: I think there are more targets during the daytime, because people usually make plans for the nighttime at private places like with friends, family, etc. You don't have access to a lot of women at night unless you're going out to hang with a party crowd, and women are more separated during the daytime so you have more targets individually as opposed to different sized sets.

I could be wrong but it seems like it's easier to get laid and build sexual relationships if you meet women at night, while it's easier to build rapport and foundations for a relationship if you meet a woman during the daytime. Though both situations can lead you to the same destination depending on your game and the girl you're gaming.

That actually brings me to my next question, it's the one I pmed you awhile ago. This is something you need to establish for around-the-clock game:

What is "social status" in your own words, and how would you build it for yourself starting from scratch?
(Meaning you made the approach and you're introducing yourself as a person of high status, basically DHVing.)

 

[Speer Method]

What is "social status" in your own words, and how would you build it for yourself starting from scratch?
(Meaning you made the approach and you're introducing yourself as a person of high status, basically DHVing.)

As you know the reason I won the Lifestyle award at the summit is due to this specific term "social status". For a while I have been asked to come up with a system that would help people understand Social Status Lifestyle. I came up with a model that I only release in my training programs. Its called RPP Lifestyle Model.

Although here is my shared opinion on "Social Status"...

Social Status refers to the relative rank that an person holds; this includes attendant rights, duties, and lifestyle, in a social hierarchy based upon prestige of sorts. Social Status has two different types that come along with it: achieved, and ascribed. The word status refers to social stratification on a vertical scale. Looking at this from a scientific point of view.

In modern societies, occupation is usually thought of as the main determinant of status, but other memberships or affiliations (such as ethnic group, religion, gender, voluntary associations, fandom, hobby) can have an influence. The importance of social status can be seen in the peer status hierarchy of geeks, athletes, cheerleaders, nerds, and weirdos in American high schools. Achieved status is when people are placed in the stratification structure based on their individual merits, success's and achievements. This status can be achieved through education, occupation, and even marital status. Their place within the stratification structure is determined by society's bar which often judges them on success, success being financial, academic, political and so on. People who achieve a high hierarchical social status often display the following qualities: confidence, generosity, intelligence, mental and emotional stability, and happiness.

 

[Accension]

I have another question and I found this quite interesting.

Last night I escalated up to kiss closing but I didn't feel like doing it, I could kind of tell the girl wanted to.

My question is this: When you don't close her and you could have, what would that amount to?

Like, am I likely to be Friended, what do you think the repercussions are of not carrying through with an escalation for what ever reason.
I suppose especially when it's expected because this particular girl likes me.

 

[BongDuy]

what are some very simply, yet effect, kino moves you can make when you first meet a girl you're interested in or dating?

 

[Speer Method]

I have another question and I found this quite interesting.

Last night I escalated up to kiss closing but I didn't feel like doing it, I could kind of tell the girl wanted to.

My question is this: When you don't close her and you could have, what would that amount to?

Like, am I likely to be Friended, what do you think the repercussions are of not carrying through with an escalation for what ever reason.
I suppose especially when it's expected because this particular girl likes me.

I wouldn't necessarily say you are in the friend zone just yet. Although..

You need to follow some guidelines so you won't be wondering any longer if you are in the friend zone with a girl. It's as simple as showing her your potential as more than just a friend.

In your case she already feels this way so you are in good shape. It is completely up to you to start escalating and build emotional connection with her.

Another thing that will make a big difference to your target is having her friends put a little peer pressure on her. If you like her, tell her friends. Have them drop hints to her and tell her that you two seem more like a couple than friends. Have her friends subtly point out your good qualities. Women really count on their friends and value their opinion so if you have her friends help you out. It will also increase the social pressure on your target which can lead to more sexual tension.

If she is still willing to go out with you as more then just friends make sure you pull the trigger. The behavior you are projecting will eventually place you in the friend zone.

Hope this helps,