freazeing up

[Bryce556]

hey, so had a great halloween and all lots and lots of DJing its really working great for me now, only one problem, heres the story:

i was gaming this one girl all night, she was kinda a bit skeptical cuase of a previous relationsip and other stuff, and when i first started flirting with her and stuff she said she liked some other guy, then i really turned up the power on the DJ machine did everthing i could think of and was one of my hardest ones ive done yet it seems. after a few hours by like 1230pm i was sitting with her then had her snuggle up all close to me and stuff, and she said "2 hours ago she would have never expected this to happen" we talked a bit and stuff ,got her number a while ealier also, but i came to this one point which would have been the perfect time to kiss her. BUT I DIDENT, i just froze.

this isent the first time this has happened this is ike the 4th time this year, dont get me wrong with most ladys i just go for it and its all good, but it seems every now and then i get one girl who just causes me to freaze up and miss perfect oppertunitys. because of this last night i eneded up at a better stage with her and will prob hang again but any tips as to how i could overcome this problem in the future?

o btw this was all at a party/ halloween thing at my university that i helped organize at the university, wasent many people in the lounge to begin with as the bar was still open and everyone was there for that part of the party, but i hung out with this girl instead of going over to the bar beside the lounge buliding, i can get in there even though im underage just cause i was one of the organizers of the event.

 

[jdon23]

Anytime you question yourself "should I kiss her?".. JUST DO IT!!!

Obviously, you have to build some attraction/kino and before hand.. but most guys won't go for the kiss because they are scared of rejection. By not going for the kiss, they can't be denied. FVCK THAT. Don't take the ***** way out. Take what you want, you're a man. Anyway, most of the time she's thinking in her head, "WHEN IS HE GOING TO KISS ME????" So just do it!!

Train yourself to get rid of ANY hesitation. You will feel much more confident in any situation.

 

[Lexington]

The key is making peace with the possibility of rejection. You just have to accept that you may get turned down, but it's better to have tried and failed than to never have tried a all.

I too was unbelievably nervous about it. I had the chance more than once to kiss close on several chicks but I just couldn't pull the trigger. Even when I knew that it was logically the right moment, I choked emotionally.

You just have to keep talking to yourself and telling yourself that you've gotta go for it and that you have nothing to lose but everything to gain. While you might logically accept that, it takes time and a lot of repetition for you to accept it subconsciously.

 

[MisterMcGee]

If it's a social place where you know the people there, don't be afraid of making a move IF YOU HAVE SOCIAL PROOF. If everyone knows you're a great guy, especially the girls (and her friends), make a ****ing move. If she rejects, her friends will be like "omg he kissed you?" "why didn't you kiss him back" and so forth. Again, only if they know you're a great guy.

I work with a girl but only around once every 2ish weeks. I work with the others girls there more often, though, and getting to know them and so forth is definitely constructive toward my efforts of getting the HB9.5
If I choose to kiss the HB9.5 at some point, and she rejects, no big deal. The girls at work won't be like "omg you made a move on HB9.5? haha you got rejected too haha, good try buddy". They'll be like "aw she rejected you? she doesn't know what she's doing, maybe she's just shy... I'll talk to her"

I'm not saying this is a strategy. It's just the basics of social proof and such. If she rejects what she finds out that everyone, especially her friends, see as a high value great guy, then she may rethink her preconceptions about you and will see you in a better light.