Freakin out on what to say/do

[B-Real]

Boy am I full of questions tonight!!

Ok, their is a girl that I have been watching (not stalking) for about a month now at my college. This girl has got to be the prettiest girl that I have ever really seen at the whole school. However it is a community college so its not THAT big LOL!!

Anywayz, I finally come up with the balls to say something to her one day before a class. We are in the same building at a particular time but in different classes. So there she was sitting by herself on a bench that lines the hallway. Key word there is BY HERSELF!! She is almost always surrounded by people. Now this girl is not out of my league. I quit doing the whole league thing a long time ago, so I know I have a chance.

I see her from a distance and I walk up to her, look at her straight in the eyes and say "You look like your pissed off"
Because she had a "pissed off" look on her face. She had her feet stretched out in front of her and did I care?? Nope. I just made myself comfortable and we talked about where she was from for a little while. That is until a couple of girls walked up and started talking to her.

But the point is: I do not know what to say now. I mean everytime I see (except for that one day) she is with a group of people. Say for instance the other day she outside coloring something and there were probably 6 people on a little picnic table. So was I suppose to go up and sit down in the middle of them and make myself comfortable?

And another thing that bothers me is that when I do see her with her group of people, she just looks at me and quickly looks away. Like its not a big deal at all that I"m anywhere around and the conversation that we had earlier that week was forgotten or not important.

I want to go up and talk to everyone, but the thing is, I feel that somebody within the crowd will shun on something I say and make everyone laugh (including her) and then I look like a dumbass. I would like to go up and take her away from the crowd in order to talk to her. But that is a totally different boat I guess. What I'm trying to say is that I really enjoy being the alpha male in any situation. But when nobody knows me then they can't show any signs of submission. Get my picture? I just wanna take charge with this girl especially and not let anybody who is around her slow me down. Thats the point I"m trying to make.

 

[superchristx]

Firstly let me say that this post is pretty lame, and I hope you don't talk like such a wuss in your real life. I'm sure I won't be the only one to ridicule you for this sh!t. "ooh wowie zowie, the prettiest girls in my whole college!" You said that she was not "out of your league" but that you were afraid ppl would shun you. I've never seen you or this broad, but I already know that she looks on you like a ****roach.


your social status in school has nothing to do with who you are or what you do, and everything with how you percieve yourself. you decide your OWN social status in college, think of all the stupid guys, ugly guys, poor guys, who are still cooler and more confident than the rest. These loozerz rool the skool, but way you have set your status low low low so that's where your at. On the other hand, since women are basically judged on looks ALONE in our culture, and she's "duh prettiest durn girl in duh hole skool," you should probably slap yourself in the face and try talking to some other girls.... instead of the most intimidating, highly sought woman who you are terrified to talk to and ashamed to show yourself infront of.

She looks at you and looks down? hey STUPID, if you saw her do this it means you were LOOKING AT HER and she saw you looking at her. "ew that creepy guy is looking at me again" so she breaks eyecontact. She probably thinks you're playing pocket pool all day, and jerk off into a jar with her picture on it. Give up, you've lost already, but there are plenty of other girls at your school who are not repulsed by you. By the way she is probably not the prettiest girl in the whole school, you're just fixated on some superficial BS (looks.)

Sorry to rant by the way. So this girl, prettiest woman on the freakin' planet, sitting there alone so you roll up to her. You can imagine that the prettiest girl on campus would be approached by and solicited by a lot of men. What percentage of those men talk about where she's from? I dunno, maybe shes tired of that old chestnut. The conversation you had earlier in that week WAS NOT IMPORTANT, it IS FORGOTTEN, she thinks you're creepy and there's just no going back.

The point is: You "enjoy being the alpha in any situation," right. Do yourself a favor and never use this term again since you clearly have no idea what it means. Maybe you're just venting your worst feelings on the internet, but your behavior smacks of "limp-d!cked pvssy-whipped b!tch" and not alpha. But there is a cure, thank GOD.

1. Read the DJ bible (you prolly already have)

2. Do a bootcamp.

 

[JonJack]

Look here B-Real. Here's the thing with initiating conversation with someone.

When you have something to say to someone or if you've got something to ask someone, you do it. You make it happen. Okay, so maybe you would like to talk to this girl about something which you don't want others to be a party of. In that case, ask her if you could talk to her and bring her away from her group of friends. It may seem weird or too forward or whatever, but the thing is you create your comfort zone. You're not embarassed by it, because you know it's what you should be doing.

When you go through life questioning every little thing that you think you should do, you basically get nothing done. You've got to focus your mind and do what is best. It's like asking someone for directions. It's like asking someone for the time. It's like asking someone why they looked so pissed.

If you need to understand one thing, understand that you doubt yourself and what to do because you do not want to waste this opportunity with this 'prettiest' girl you've ever seen. That in itself is a problem. Just do it man. Just talk to her. Just go and make things happen. Cause if you don't, you'll probably waste it with her anyway.

Why don't you just crash and burn instead of just spontaneously combusting?