Freak accident before date

[iamnobody]

Wednesday I blitz approached a fairly shy hottie at my favourite cafe and got a date out of her in 5 minutes, set it for saturday afternoon. Didn’t bothered to get her number (I usually don’t) since I’m quite sure she won’t flake (IOIs, good BL, reminded me before she left the day and hour, etc).

However, I managed to fvck up my ankle yesterday when I put up a curtain. The chair was weak and it broke.
This came as the cherry on top of my august injury when I ruptured a musle on a paragliding bad landing. That was healing nicely but now I’m set back. Yesterday’s fall left me with a visible limp and this is actually my problem:

If I’m showing up limping, it’s going to be a huge DLV and probably a slight turn off. Let’s just say this won’t work in my favour.
If I don’t, I’ll probably never going to meet her again since I don't have the phone number. I’d hate that because she strikes me as LTR material. I’m not going into details, just trust me on that.

What would you do, mates? Show up with a fvcking limp or just drop it?
Other solutions?

 

[sylvester the cat]

Seriously. You can't explain to her you fell off a chair? or sustained it during a football game

It's not like you were limping when you met her, is it?

she'll probably be impressed that you turned up at all. plus girls are awfully mothering when it comes to injuries. great chance for you to milk this injury and use it to your advantage.

 

[iamnobody]

No, I didn't limp when we met. I'm aware it sounds ridiculous, but the limp is pretty bad indeed. Thought about milking it myself.

 

[sylvester the cat]

No, I didn't limp when we met. I'm aware it sounds ridiculous, but the limp is pretty bad indeed. Thought about milking it myself.

too bad you didn't get her number. you could have rearranged the date to your place.

how were you going to call it off if you didn't have her number anyway? or vice versa.

 

[foreverAFC]

who cares about your ankle, go meet her

 

[iamnobody]

Hehe, will do and will convince her that her gina drip has incredible healing properties for my ankle. Thank you kindly for the feedback, mates.

 

[switch]

DUDE the paragliding story is the best story ever....its like "instant v@ginal lubrication"

use it!

 

[VikingKing]

Yup, if you got hurt doing somthing bad@ss, then that means you do risky things, there is your answer.

Just tell her it was from paragliding.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Dear iamsore:

I understand your hesitation, because girls today are so incredibly shallow that perhaps even the majority of them will view a limp as a weakness.

However, as men, we have the power to reframe anything, and women's Achilles heel is that they are subject to accepting our frames.

You need to act with BOLDNESS and go through with the date. It will reveal what you need to know about her. Plus, as switch says, you can leverage your story to your advantage.

The act of boldly going on the date in spite of your injury will benefit you personally and will be a deposit in your bank of character development. Screw how she feels about it... this is all about you.

Go boldly with absolutely no self-consciousness. Frame it that you're testing her to determine her character and values. She needs to pass your test and live up to your standards, which in this case is your requirement that she be not adversely affected by your injury. If she fails, cut the date abruptly and leave (dispassionately).

The reason that women reject men is that they sense that men feel deep inside that they don't deserve her, that there is something wrong with them. A woman will always accept the frame that a man brings to the table.

When a man's frame is insecurity and trepidation, she will accept that you must have a reason for feeling that way, and she will buy into the notion that there is something wrong with you. Conversely, when you approach a woman with complete self-acceptance, she will buy into that frame hook, line, & sinker because she HAS to. She is a slave to outside frames because she is a woman and has virtually zero internal locus of control. A woman's entire structure comes from without, as within there exists no structural substance.

I know that you know most of this already, iamnobody. I'm riffing here in a general sense in case any noobs are reading.

Now, I'm going to put on my "Uncle Atom" hat and tell you guys that one should never, EVER use a chair to reach something. Every man should have a good ladder and/or stepstool. The right tool for the job. I know a guy who has permanently damaged himself because he used a chair that went out from under him.
[\Old Uncle Atom rant]

Men, we need to design our frames and sell them, because the people in your sphere are eager to buy. People gravitate toward men with strong, unshakeable frames and will naturally grant such men leadership over them.

Go show us how it's done on Saturday and let us know how it turned out.

 

[zekko]

Listen to Atom Smasher.
Your ankle being hurt is not a big deal. The only way it will be is if you think it is.
She'll have to wait another day to expect you to beat up everyone in the bar for her.
Maybe it will bring out the nurturer in it.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Ice, elevation, anti-inflammatories. Limping is a stupid thing to do. Get some crutches if it hurts that much. Staying off of it is what helps it heal. Make it a sit-down date, where you can put your foot up.

Worrying about a silly temporary injury lowering your value is much more value-lowering than any injury could be. Caring too much is not fun, and it's not attractive.

 

[_sideways_]

DAmn....there's a lot of love in this post....good to see. If I wanted to be funny, I'd say I took one too many viagras and the extra weight of the blood vessels down there is throwing off my equilibrium

 

[TooNice]

tell her someone tried to rob you during black friday sales... and you hit em with the Liu Kang Mortal Kombat kick... and messed up your leg lol


..Na.. but man, just go out n have fun... it'll be alright

 

[LiveFreeX]

Tell her you were almost raped by a girl you went out with. She broke your ankle but she couldn't break your spirit. Then wink at her.

 

[user name]

Listen to Atom Smasher.
Your ankle being hurt is not a big deal. The only way it will be is if you think it is.
She'll have to wait another day to expect you to beat up everyone in the bar for her.
Maybe it will bring out the nurturer in it.

....................

 

[Desdinova]

If I’m showing up limping, it’s going to be a huge DLV and probably a slight turn off.

You've gotta be fvcking kidding me. You're going to let a stupid MINOR injury stop you from going on a date? If you're confident about what you perceive would be a turn-off, then it no longer becomes a turn-off.

 

[idoloveromance]

Show up even though you're injured, the girl will find it sweet. and women like sweet stuff.

 

[pinkfl]

I seriously have to wonder where you are meeting these girls that would be turned off/completely disinterested in the fact that you got injured. Like, are you making this nonsense up?

I have never, ever, in my entire life heard of a SINGLE GIRL use the "oh, he's injured" excuse for being disinterested in a guy. Ever.

Guy I dated once got sick with a cold within the first two weeks of being official. I made him soup. Couple months later, I end up spending the night in the hospital because he got injured wrestling.

TLDR: Don't flake on the date. She won't care you are injured.

 

[zekko]

I seriously have to wonder where you are meeting these girls that would be turned off/completely disinterested in the fact that you got injured. Like, are you making this nonsense up?

Can't really blame the OP for getting this into his head. Look at all the PUA material which tells you that if you show a moment's weakness, you get blown out. Look at all the posters here who say that being an average male is not enough, you have to be one of the top 10-20% to attract women. The message is that it is not enough to be merely male/masculine; You have to be Alpha Male, Alpha Masculine.

But if you take off the PUA blinders and live in the real world for awhile, then you realize a minor injury is no big deal. Women even supposedly like scars, bruises, and black eyes - things that suggest a man is rugged. Not sure that getting hurt while putting up curtains is going to help though lol.

 

[iamnobody]

We met, she's sort of easy going, not many self entitlement issues for now, banged her the next day.